Romantic love (or relationship love of other sorts, family included) is not the same as REAL LOVE. Romantic love is a love I find it hard to stay gounded in while trying to connect with the other higher LOVE.  But maybe in "trying", I miss the point. LOVE just is. Nothing more, nothing less.
 
Romantic love is when two people join to become one, not realizing they were always joined and always one. No joining is necessary, except to experience the beauty of incarnated delights and to tell a story .... a beautiful one.
 
REAL LOVE  flows through romantic love because it flows through all (it is ever-present despite disappointments, failures, challenges, disease, etc).  It is not a romantic feeling or urging. Is not idolatry or obsession. Romantic love is quite different from REAL LOVE and revolves around ego and the concept of separation rather than oneness. It judges right and wrong, good and bad and expresses wants and needs (which none exist at a higher level). REAL LOVE is core, has no beginning and no end and is true reality of our beingness and form.
 
I'm definitely no expert in expressing REAL LOVE or knowing it fully in my incarnated being, though I know it through the I AM like everyone does and expresses through sheer creativity with life. But, luckily despite incarnated unknowingness (since I have not completely transcended ego on earth,,,not even close) it exists and is there regardless, untouched by my wayward incarnated failures, disappointments, griefs etc. There is nothing "wrong" here. There just is... a creative process, a story we can engage in and relay through our lives.
 
Romantic love is dream, a beautiful one indeed, in which to experience and learn from. It serves as a mirror, though I think what is mirrored is still but dreams. REAL LOVE is not reserved for just one person or the opposite sex or non-family members, and is towards all, including ourselves as well as nature and creatures.  ALL connections are ONE.  I think the challenge is to accept romantic love as part of a dream we come here to dream, to enjoy it but to know it doesn't define us. The same way one can enjoy ones dreams at night and wake to know they were only dreams, though fascinating and creative none-the-less. No dream ever affected REAL LOVE, just as dreams at night are not dangerous to waking life. REAL LOVE is core to our very being. and definitely something we can tap into and a beauty to touch and feel through our dreams.  Romantic/relationship love is not unconditional, and I'm confused whether or not it is impossible or even unwise for it to be unconditional as egos and relationships carry choice, selection and conditions that have nothing to do with REAL LOVE which has no choice and cannot select.
 
If we actually began manifesting  REAL LOVE more fully into the the incarnated world and romantic relationships, then I think maybe romantic love in the sense of just two people joining together would not exist the same anymore ...