On this planet right now we see and experience polarity and duality. Loving to be ruled by our minds instead of our hearts, we can analyze and judge. The "negative" side becomes "wrong" or "bad", or we want to escape from it. However, if you go deep enough into anything, it is all One, and every polarity, even often the "positives" usually contain the same call... a call to/for Love. Though we make this attainment of Love conditional, it really has no such conditions.

Neither polarity/duality is necessarily the truth or real how it is often expressed on this planet. So, just watch with the eyes of Unconditional Love the swing of your pendulum. If you can't love it, that's ok too. You don't have to figure everything out or have all the answers. It's ok to just "be" sometimes and to feel what you feel, living in the heart. No force is needed, no rush or desperation. The only part of you that matters is already there. Earth is just a playground... you can allow understanding to process in its own timing and way, and then look forward to a new feeling, a new moment...

"Be still and know that I am God" "And calling to him a child, he put him in the midst of them and said, 'Truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.'" (Matthew ESV)