I hate that about you!
“I
hate that about you!” Have you ever said
that to someone? It was probably someone
that you loved too. Don’t those words
just look so ugly on the page? How could
you say that to someone you loved?
It’s
actually pretty easy. Our loved ones are
generally those that know exactly what button of ours to push. After a while they get to know you, and they
know exactly how to move you in any given directions. Of course some people are better at this than
others. But is getting motivated a bad
thing? Usually it’s not.
The
thing about this phrase though is we need to watch and beware of our own
projections. Yes, our projections and transferences
of our feelings onto another; it happens all the time. When we say, “I hate
that about you”, just how much are we meaning, “I hate that about myself”.
The
famous psychologist Carl Jung gave to the world the idea of The Shadow, and
people like Debbie Ford have dedicated their life’s work to it. It’s pretty tricky stuff, but if you can
master it you life will change for the better. Projection is just a part of shadow work. The process of taking that which we hate most
about ourselves and applying it to those around us. It’s not to say that they don’t have those
traits, but because you disown them in yourself, you hate them even more in
other. That’s why it’s so easy to push
your partner’s buttons. You’ve come to
know their dark, disowned characteristics and you can bring out Mr. Hyde faster
than any elixir ever could!
So
next time you are pointing a finger at your loved ones, take a look at your
pointing hand… there are three fingers pointing back at YOU.
Bright blessings ~ Richard