It's OVER
In
his beloved book, “The Prophet”, Gibran writes; “When love beckons to you,
follow him, Though his ways are hard and steep. And when his wings enfold you
yield to him, Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you. And when
he speaks to you believe in him, Though his voice may shatter your dreams as
the north wind lays waste the garden.”
For
many years I’ve taken what Gibran wrote to heart. Love is not always joy and bliss. If we want the best of love, we have to
endure the worst of it too. I still
believe that when love beckons you… you should follow, but when he speaks to
you and says, “this relationship is not going to work” – you better sit up and
pay attention to that too.
There
are many key elements to an intimate relationship. Trust of course is huge, and the ability to
communicate in a healthy fashion is critical.
So, when you get those feelings of “I don’t think he’s the one” or "I can't live with her for the rest of my life", it’s
time to sit down and have a real heart to heart with him or her. You cannot make him change, and if you know
you can’t, or don’t want to, change then there is not much left. If nothing can be fixed, to stay together
after this (for ANY reason) is folly.
Once your mind has whispered, “this can’t work” – in usually won’t work…
and the longer you hang on, the more painful it will be at the end.
That’s
not to say don’t love or don’t pour your soul into love… I still believe in
LOVE. I used to get upset when I heard that
Brad Pitt was calling his marriage to Jennifer Aniston (which ended in divorce)
a success. What divorce is a successful
marriage?! Well, in terms of the
institution of Marriage, divorce is not a success, but in terms of a love
relationship, loving while you could, but ending it when needed IS a
success from a certain perspective.
Bright blessings ~ Richard