Sex… can’t live with it, can’t live without it (at least once you’ve had it). Yep, sorry if you’re a virgin this won’t mean much to you. So, what about that hot, wet, messy, juicy, grunting bedroom antic called sex? Of course it’s no longer confined to only the bedroom. When you talk about it, it sure does not sound so great. Nothing at least to make people go crazy… and people do go crazy over it. There are over a dozen sexual mental disorders listed in the most current copy of the DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders). And yet it still happens to be the most intimate way of expressing our love to a partner – or is it?

Casual sex, animal sex, S&M, BDSM, intimate sex, kinky sex, Quickie sex, oral sex, Tantric sex, “friends with benefits”… how many kinds of sex can you list off? And yet it is still, for millions of people…. only ever know as “Making love”. Do other animals in the animal kingdom make love? Dolphins? Whales? Guess we won’t know that till we can talk to them in the locker room. One thing is for certain though; sex brings people together - literally and figuratively. Whether it’s a display of our love, or a pastime of passion sex for us human beings is essentially meant to be a good thing.

Unfortunately some people don’t know that. These people mistake sex for control. Of course it’s an easy mistake… we are probably the most vulnerable when having sex – physically for certain and perhaps even emotionally. The one thing that sex should NOT be about is control. (we can discuss BDSM later) Sex must be a give and take for both parties if it is to beneficial to our relationships. If it’s not give and take then it becomes another relationship exercise, like taking out the garbage. Don’t let that happen.