When the world seems against you, those are the times in our lives when we are most likely to feel as if our life sucks. It’s far harder when those whom you love seem not to be able to support you, or surround you in negativity. Of course we have to try to remember that usually they are coming from their own perspectives and we should try not to judge them for that, or think they love us any less.
It’s in these moments when it seems it is human nature to shut down. That’s why the ancient saying; “when the going gets tough, the tough get going”, is still touted today. But doesn’t that just piss you off when you hear that, when you are down? Doesn’t it feel so condescending when you hear that? I know I feel that way usually.
So what are you supposed to do? Well, the truth of it is you don’t have to get tough; you just need to persist, and persist with a positive attitude. It’s OK to feel down now and again, that is normal. You have to acknowledge and allow these feelings – life does not exist without them, but there is so much more to life. So after you give yourself the chance to acknowledge your feelings, take a very close look at what is happening to you. Are you happenings due to something you are doing? If so, you might think about changing what you are doing. Develop a different, perhaps better plan! If you are caught up in the current of things outside your control, this is more difficult. Your response to these things is all you can control, and you better at least respond in as positive a way as possible.
I know much of this is easier said than done, but I also know it’s not impossible. You don’t feel good about yourself? Then start your day spoiling yourself… take a hot shower, or bath and then get dressed up! You say you have no where to go? Why get dressed up to vacuum the floor, or to sit at the computer looking for work? Because usually when we look our best, we also feel our best. Put that smile on your face so that people can smile back at you. You want goodness – you have to give goodness first.
It’s all out there for you. All you have to do is know that, and then in gratitude – go for it!
Bright blessings ~ Richard |