Are you a mind reader? Do you know any mind readers? No? Then why is it we expect so many people around us to know what we want of them? How many times have you experienced the hurt of not fulfilling someone else’s wishes, and you didn’t have a clue as to what it is they wanted.

Is this a guy thing? I don’t know, but it sure seems that way to me at least in terms of relationships. I can’t tell you how many women I’ve heard say; “… but I shouldn’t have to tell you that!” I have NEVER heard a guy say that to his wife or girlfriend. OK, OK, ladies you know it’s true, but I’ll stop the sexist stuff, because the truth of it is, us guys do it to - just in a different way. That’s right Bob… you sure do!

We’ve been raised to be courteous, and many of us were taught it was impolite to make direct requests. Debbie Ford points this out and further says because of this we make subtle hints, beat around the bush and plain old manipulate the subject (not to mention the old mind reading act). It’s all part of the people-pleasing epidemic we are facing. We don’t want to offend anyone, we don’t want to step on anyone toes, we don’t want to cross the line. But what are we REALLY saying? – “We don’t deserve what we want”.

Is that true? You don’t deserve anything? I personally don’t don’t think that’s true. You deserve a great many things. The fact that you are reading this blog shows me that you are seeking to better yourself. That fact alone means you deserve a great deal – SO ASK FOR IT. Jesus taught us, “Ask and you shall receive”, and Gandhi said, “If you don’t ask, you don’t get” If you find yourself not asking for what you want or need, you really have to take a look at why. Why would you do this to yourself? Are you embarrassed? Are you afraid, lacking self confidence? What is it that you have to overcome in order to make a powerful direct request?

Figure out why you don’t ask, and I promise you, you’ll be able to ask next time.

Love and Bright blessings ~ Richard