To win or not to win...
I
once read an article by Bryan Robert (Guru of Finance) that one of his
claims to fame was to never walk away from the bargaining table unless
he had a resolution that was a win / win situation for everyone. The attitude that someone always looses has to be discarded. How many times have felt like you've been on the loosing side of things? Society
has run this way for too long, and the more people that think the way
Bryan does will certainly go a long way to allowing us to live in a
happier place.
Bryan, of course, was talking about how he made his millions. He never entered into a deal where he left someone behind. Everyone got their fair share, or no one got anything. But could you imagine what it would be like, in every walk of life, if this attitude was foremost? In your relationships? In your job?
Life is full of compromise. So often we compromise to the point of surrendering our own power. This
brings us back to the “People Pleasers” that Debbie Ford writes about.
The ART of negotiation, or compromise should then be more like what
Bryan writes about. Don’t give up all you desire, stand
in your power and graciously accept some of the points from your
partner. You can’t stand the Opera; they can’t stand the ball game. Who wrote it in stone that you have to do everything together? Help your partner make a night without you, and then be willing to listen when they want to share their joy with you.
So, lets change that old saying of, “Win one for the Gipper”, to , “now get out there and win one WITH the Gipper!”
Bright blessings ~ Richard