Walls
According
to Wikipedia, the Great Wall of China was built “220–200
BC by the first Emperor of China, Qin Shi Huang.” It was built to effectively keep the
Mongolian hordes out of China.
– it worked. Hadrian’s Wall
built in Scotland
starting somewhere around 122 AD was built by the Romans; not to keep anyone
out, but rather to keep the Pictish barbarians IN. – it worked.
Ordinarily,
I would not be talking about the benefits of walls. Especially those our ego erects in our own
lives. Personally, I’ve tried to tear
down any wall I personally discovered in myself. I cannot reach out to another, nor can they
reach into me if I have impenetrable walls around me. Of course this leaves me
open to certain kinds of attacks, but when weighing the pros and cons of it, I
would rather be an open person than a closed one. I have discovered other ways to evade
attacks.
This
perspective is all well and good, BUT – if your ego allows you to tear down the
walls, make sure that you do not throw your boundaries out with them. Boundaries are less of a wall and more of say
a curb. A small wall that is easy to
cross, but has consequences if it is crossed.
Boundaries are the most important part of staying within our own power,
and maintaining control. If you take
away your own boundaries for a loved one, then you are essentially giving your
power and control over to them. That may
not be a bad thing, but you better make sure that is something you really want
to do.
A
person without boundaries is more than likely a codependent. Not a good thing to be.
Bright blessings ~ Richard