Trust, respect, love – do you have these things in your life? It’s not unheard of in western society to be cautious when dealing with these emotions. Our ego steps up and controls how we work with trust, respect and love. Many of us feel we cannot give such things away unless we have a sense that we are (or will be) getting them back in return.

This is understandable because our ego is designed to protect us. We feel the impact of our ego time and time again. We talk about not trusting without first being trusted, or not having to respect if not respected… and most certainly most of us will not love without feeling loved.

If you think about it though, that potentially could send you deep into the loneliest existence you could ask for. I’m sure that you’ve heard we must first give in order to get. I have often said the only kind of respect we ‘earn’ is disrespect. Regardless, some people just cannot give these things blindly. Past hurts have driven these qualities so deep; they must be dug out by others with a shovel!

I had a very interesting conversation with a dear friend of mine - another very accomplished coach - and we came to the conclusion, the fact remains; we must first give to receive. But no one is asking you to give these things to others blindly. I propose that you first give these things to yourself – trust me your ego will not stand in your way if you want to give these things to yourself. Self trust; if you trust your own judgment and the things you do, your confidence will do nothing but inspire others and they will trust you. If you respect yourself, others will see you standing with honor and integrity, allowing them to respect you… and if you love yourself – you are free to love others, and they will love you in return. Give to yourself – and you will receive – it’s the way of the Universe.

Love and Bright blessings ~ Richard