Friday, August 24, 2007 3:30 PM
Professional Therapy
Intimate Relationships with Strippers, Prostitutes and Sex Workers.
This is a two-sided argument, but I definitely have my position. I tend to agree with women sex workers (women working in the sex industry) who view their work as a very empowering experience. Yet, men have this idea that dating a woman who is a stripper, prostitute, escort, porn star or other is considered taboo. That the only type of man that would do this must be a loser, one who could not get a girl otherwise. The belief is that the girls are "damaged goods." Men are often heard saying that if they were to get involved with one of these women, the first thing they would do is to tell her to stop, and find another job. Ironic, being that that is how he met her in the first place, was what attracted him to her in the first place, yet doesn't want her doing it anymore? Why not? It is semi- understandable he does not want the same thing happening to another guy, getting the chance to meet his girl the same way he did, and granted being a sex worker means you are selling your body or sex, and I understand that sex is something that is supposed to be personal, private and special to your relationship. But, there are boundaries. I think it's wonderful that women choose to do this, and empower themselves. I think it's sexy and I see the artistic point of value, but men don't think of it this way, and when I speak to certain socialized women, their view is skewed, some women say "Men don't marry prostitutes," yet, other women believe it to be extremely empowering. A man told me today that the sex workers' unspoken truth is that many were molested. Maybe this is true, but is it also not true that there are sex workers that aren't molested, and molested individuals who are not sex workers. It's this stereotyping that bothers me. Although I understand it. Do sex workers make men feel inferior? What exactly is it? Or is it just the thought of women sharing their personal sevles with so many others? Are men just extremely territorial?