Dating check list: Score card for picking a winner of a date - Part I of II
This blog is inspired by an e-mail I was sent three years ago this month. I was asked what I wanted out of a relationship and I rattled off a list of requirements. They are universal in appeal and I expect you’re going to want to make sure your dates meet as many of these requirements as possible. I am therefore sharing these requirements with you.
This is the first of a two part blog. In this first blog we will consider two personality traits – a sense of humor and intellect. In the second half, ambition, honesty, and intuition are considered.
1. Sense of humor: Does the date have a sense of humor. You may prefer them serious so on your check list rather then ask if he/she has a sense of humor you should be asking if he/she is serious.
You will want your date to be able to do one, if not both of two things. They should either make you laugh or laugh at your corny jokes. Don’t laugh at their jokes if you don’t find it funny or you just don’t get it. Eventually it will seriously grate on your nerves.
If you crack a few jokes and they either sit there with a poker face or they are so appalled their jaw drops open, then chances are there is a lack of sense of humor or a matching sense of humor. Now what I mean by that is that some people like practical jokes, some stupid humor, some toilet humor, and some like dirty humor.
So you may both like to joke around but if you’re tickled by different kinds of punch lines then a disconnect remains. Don’t check this box off.
2. Smart not condescending: I want my date to stimulate me mentally. However I don’t want to be talked down to. Even if your date is not deliberately trying to go over your head, if you just have no clue what they are talking about half the time, and every other word out of their mouth is three syllables or more then you risk developing an inferiority complex and resenting them for it.
This also works in reverse as well. Be sure not to try to hard to impress your date with the encyclopedia you are carrying around in your head. Rather than impress your date, he or she will feel alienated by you.
It works as it should when you are able to learn about life from your date and also feel that you can contribute as well. Your date should be able to learn from you and vice versa. The goal should be to date someone just as smart and possibly a bit smarter. Now smarts is not based on IQ alone. A person demonstrates smarts by also using common sense well.