Dating checklist: Score card for picking a winner of a date - Part II
This is the second part of a two part blog. In the first blog we considered two personality traits – sense of humor and intellect. In this final part we discuss three more.
3. Accomplished but ambitious: Do not check this box off if your date is 35 years old and living with their parents; If you pick up your date because you have to and not because you want to; if they cannot do anything until they get paid.
At thirty-five they should have emptied the nest and be living alone or in the least with a room-mate. Your date should have their own reliable transportation unless you live in an urban area with a very good mass transit system and it is common to use them rather than have a car. If they have no savings and are working as a fry cook at McDonald’s do you really want to have to cover every bill every where you take him or her just so you can do some nice things together?
If you ask them what school they went to and they inform you that they never even graduated high school let alone college then this in time can be a problem. You don’t want a situation that you become someone’s crutch because you never really know if they need you or want you. The latter rather than the former should be the reason to get together unless you are a control freak.
Even when they have done a few things with their lives they should show an interest in improving themselves. Ask them about their goals. Do they rent an apartment but want to own a home? Do they have a Bachelors Degree but want to return to school to get a Masters? Are they making ends meet but looking to be promoted or start a new career to increase their pay?
4. Honesty: They should mean what they say, say what they mean. If this date is constantly rescheduling and changing the plans around then how can you depend on them? How can you trust that when they say they will do something that they mean it, and will do it.
They also should say what they mean. If you feel they are withholding information from you that may deter you from continuing to see them, can you expect any better in a long term relationship? If they are constantly beating around the bush and can’t trust that you can handle the explicit truth this is someone you can’t expect to say what they mean.
5. Intuitive: The only intuition I expect a date to have is to the extent they understand my needs. If you are home sick with the flu and have to cancel a date, you should not have to ask for chicken soup if you want it. They should show up at your door with it and ask what more they can do to help. This is a trait that will take several dates over time to realize if it is instinctual for your date to be mindful of your needs. Naturally, you should be able to reciprocate.
These are five characteristics all your dates should have. Some may not important to you while there are other important ones not discussed here. Which ones can you think of? Let us know which and why they are important.