Ever wonder why everyone you date treats you like a door mat?
Before I go any further with this I want you to stop reading for just a moment and think about all the loosers who have ever darkened your door. Ever consider how they are alike? Aside from walking all over you of course. You might want to start giving that some thought.
Those shared traits or trait do not only tell you what they have in common because really ... do you care? More importantly this trait is a key into the doorway to your soul.
Now you don't have to think about this at all. You can just call me and we can brainstorm together. However, I ask you to complete this exercise in advance in an effort to save you some money when calling. By then, we can focus on what this trait tells us about you if anything.
Some of us spend so much time figuring out someone else at our own expense. The price to be paid in investing all our thoughts in someone else is a lack of self-awareness. We do this because it is easier to make judgments about someone else's behavior rather than our own. Often times what we hide deep inside ourselves is much too painful.
Together you and I can begin to explore the mysteries you hide deep inside. This is a detour you must take on the road to finding wedded bliss. Before we can know and appreciate someone else, we must first know ourselves. Through our soul searching we identify the traits we hide that serve as magnets to the traits in others that abuse us.
Once you complete this journey you can be a more discerning shopper of the meet market. You may find you attract less of the loosers and more of the winners. Better yet, you may then have what it takes to keep those winners. Now there is no arguing that you deserve a quality person, because you yourself are a quality person. However like everything else in life we have to earn what we deserve.
In life we don't always get what we want based on hard effort alone. Our destiny is shaped in part by life choices. You can work real hard at landing someone by sending them flowers, buying them a fancy dinner, hoping in the sack and being the best they ever had or will have. And if you think about how you try to win someone over, you probably implement the same tired, failure of a plan time and time again.
So whats the problem? the plan or the person? Hmm .... Goes to show you can go through life trying and trying and trying but your effort is in vain and as nice as you may be, the wrong effort doesn't cut it.
I have always been a big fan of personal responsibility. It is a firm conviction of mine that the more wise decisions we make the better things will turn out. Granted, we are dealing with other people's feelings towards us as well. To a degree, your actions can positively influence these feelings but they cannot control them nor should they.
So if you not only make changes in who you meet but changes in who you are, just be mindful that these changes should only influence and not control. I hope this has served as food for thought and if the wheels are turning, I think it best that you call me while your mind is racing with ideas on the subject. There is no better time for us to talk than when this is all fresh in your mind so you can get it all out in one simple, yet productive phone call!