If you love with all of your heart then why aren't you being loved in return?
If you have never heard Bonnie Raitt's "I can't make you love me" I highly recommend it. It’s on her Luck of the Draw album which overall was probably her greatest. Anyway, Bonnie sings the words you may know deep down inside to be true about someone you really love but don't ever want to have to admit to. You will so identify with this song and it will bring you to tears every time you hear it.
True if someone doesn’t love you, chances are they never will. Still, you can make it easier to love you or in the very least easier to love them. Now I don’t mean you have any difficulty loving them. That comes natural but perhaps there is a little voice inside your head telling you your feelings are getting you nowhere. This conflict can be overwhelming at times. Your friends and family may compound these conflicted feelings if they do not approve of how you have invested your feelings.
God forbid I should ask you to just stop loving someone! That is not easy and unrealistic. So if you are unwilling to let them go, until you are, I have some suggestions for you to make this time less stressful. You can’t make them do anything less than loving you either, so you are the one who needs to make changes to make loving them easier on you until either they come around or your feelings naturally run their course and you are ready to move on.
Now about making yourself easier to love, this does not always mean bending over backwards to cater to his or her every whim. Hell, you wish some one would treat you even half as well as you treat this special someone in your life. There may even be some one in your life who does, but they are not who you want treating you this way – right? It is not always or only what you do, but who you are.
I am not saying be who you think this person wants you to be. Never! You need to be yourself. You are a wonderful person with so much love to give. That is not something you want to change. Still, as good as you are just the way you are, there is room for improvement. This does not always mean changing things. Sometimes this means adopting certain behaviors that are in your best interest. These characteristics can reduce the anxiety you feel for this person and may even make you more attractive to them. If they have already made up their mind about how they feel about you, in the very least you are more at peace and you become more attractive to more of the right people.
I realize a lot of this is generalizations because I am speaking to all of you and we all know one size doesn’t always fit all. Many of you reading this share the experience I have characterized here but all of you do have unique nuances specific to your experience. I would like to hear about them. Give me a call. Together we can look at what has transpired and try to make sense of it all. Through our meeting of the minds we can develop some options to guide this episode of your love life in a more positive direction.