Ole Geezers ISO young love
I find this topic a bit disturbing. If you are the geezer or the spring chicken I think I need to speak to you before I come in here and start pontificating on the subject. I don't suggest concerned family members call regarding the couple. I am not interested in helping you find a way to stop them because that is not what I would do were they to call me themselves. What I would do is help them understand why they should stop and decide for themselves to do so.
In some cases after hearing about the relationship I will conclude that there is no harm in continuing or perhaps that it would be wise to continue. I don't expect I would do that often but I really need to hear this from the horse's mouth so I can determine what is really going on in the relationship based on what I am told has been said and done by the parties involved. You have an agenda, understandably so but I don't want that influencing how you would characterize the relationship because I then cannot see it through the eyes of the parties involved. I will need to in order to properly advise them.
If you disagree with what they are doing, chances are so will I but they made the decision to start this and they need to make the decision to end it. Even when the decision to end it is considered it must be done IF and only if that decision is in their best interest to do. Third parties exerting pressure often emboldens these pairs to continue come hell or high water.
I want all of you to feel you can talk about anything without being judged but I would hope you would allow me an opportunity to discourage you from what you want if I believed you would be better off. You of course can make your own decision regardless of what I have to say and I will continue to speak to you if you go down a road I think leads to heart break.
My objective should you continue would then be twofold. First objective would be an effort to prepare you for what I believe to be inevitable rather than tell you to avoid it by abstaining from the situation. Abstaining for you may not be an option and so I'd like to help you make the best of the situation and help you be able to back out of it gracefully with your feelings intact in the event it must end.
I understand some of the typical motivations for engaging in these types of relationships. Often times an aging person wants to feel young again while a youngster wants a father/mother figure to serve as a mentor. These are motivations almost harmless but are not motivations that I feel foster lasting relationships because they are not based on any of the characteristics that make a relationship last. They are based on what each individual is rather than who each individual is.
At times there are more emotionally abusive motivations. An older person may be looking to prey on the naiveté of an inexperienced young person in an effort to control them. A young person may be motivated by the older person's ability to finance all the material things they want from life. Physical attraction or love does not factor into these motivations.
Are you in a relationship like this? Do you think he or she is using you for your money? Do you think he or she is playing mind games to control you? If so I need to hear from you. If you have any doubts lets talk so you can arrive at an informed conclusion as to if the relationship is right for you or not. If it is, and you allow doubts to cloud your mind the relationship is even more prone to end when it could otherwise continue.