Personal Ads do's and dont's: How to get attention and how to get ignored - Part II
In part II of Personal ads do's and don'ts we consider ways to promote your image when explaining what you are all about and who is it you would like to meet. For a discussion as to which Internet dating sites can yield the best results and which photographs of yourself to upload to your profile, read Part I.
Certainly what you write is also very important. Do not talk about being fresh out of a relationship. The first thing the member who reads your profile will think is that you are on the rebound. Certainly don’t be critical of your ex. The member will assume if you could speak that way of your ex, you could do that to them as well. All of that is baggage they expect you will bring into a relationship with them.
The tone should be upbeat, positive, and confident without being overbearing. The tone alone will go much farther in making you sound more attractive than even your pictures may suggest. Particularly to those where the picture is only the beginning and needs to be supported by someone who appears personable.
Avoid a long list of what you are not looking for. You will appear petty and closed minded. It can be a turn off to those who are not affected by the exclusionary language you use. Be this, be that, be this and be that are orders people don’t want to see right off the bat. If you want anyone to be anything, just ask them to be nice. That is what matters.
Also a long list of what you are looking for makes you appear self-centered. You can list a few things but balance it with what it is you have to offer someone else without appearing to pat yourself on the back about it. It is not enough for someone to know they are your type; they need to know if you are their type as well.
I can go on and on about this. Why not give me a call instead? This way we can focus on how you will write your personal, or tweak it to improve it so that it will not only get you attention, but attention from who you are looking for.
I understand some may use other methods such as ads in paper publications but if you’re able to read this Internet only blog, it is safe to assume you can also view personal ads online. For this reason, if you plan on placing ads and responding to ads posted in paper form, then this is another reason to call so that we can discuss the various nuances that may be involved in off-line dating services. Good luck!