The reason those vague Ashley Madison commercials don't bode well with you
I hate that their commercials have aroused my suspicion to visit their web-site to confirm what I think they are up to. I suspect it to be something appalling. I have resisted visiting their web-site in the event it is as bad as I think because I don’t want to contribute so much as a hit to their web-site if I am correct in what I am thinking.
I did a search and saw a news link and unfortunately it was a news link on their site to the two television advertisements they have run thus far, press releases, some promotional appearances on various shows, etc. That alone was too much. I hit the back button on my browser and tried to wiki them. There is nothing on wikipedia about them yet. Which in a way is not a bad thing.
So I finally found an op piece in a paper through a google search. It was not favorable to the site but I am confident it has not misrepresented Ashley Madison and I was sorry to learn that yes, its as bad as I thought.
The first ad happens so fast you need to see it often to really get the jist of what is going on. There is this sympathetic wife sitting at a table in a restaurant and her husband shows up late and spends his time checking out other women, insulting his wife, and talking on his cell phone. He then wishes his wife a happy anniversary and says he has to run. He leaves and we then see his wife checking out an equally attractive man off in the distance and gives him a wink.
I hear some cities won’t even run these ads. Others like mine, I don’t think are airing the tagline or if so not prominently. The tagline is … okay are you ready? “Life is short, have an affair” No, don’t rub your eyes you read right. This site is telling you to cheat on your spouse.
The new ad features a sympathetic male. We find him in bed at dawn with his wife. Although we don’t know she is his wife at first. It is seemingly a one night stand. We see liquor strewn about on night stands and such. He has awakened to find her snoring her fool head off and positioned to otherwise drool on his chest. A pitiful sight indeed. He extricates himself from under her, grabs his clothes and runs down the stairs to leave. If I remember correctly, the narrator tells us no harm done unless of course this is someone you’re waking up with night after night. We then see the husbands disappointed look as he sees a wedding portrait of him and his wife and realizes his wife is the woman he was just in bed with.
The fact that Ashley Madison can thrive or even survive goes to show that society is nearing moral bankruptcy. I mean really, how much lower can we go? Let me tell you, I’m pretty liberal. I am by no means among the virtuous you will meet through out your life. However, I could go so far as tolerating someone’s indiscretions but shamelessly encouraging infidelity is where a line needs to be drawn.
What this site is doing through its ad’s is trying to tell us “poor you, live as little, log in and hook up”. Did it ever occur to them that the victim of adultery has not always been responsible for their spouse wanting to cheat.
Alright, so the wife in the second commercial was passed out and probably hung over drunk snoring away on her husband’s chest. Does this mean she deserves to be cheated on? The first wife whose husband was ignoring her was truly a victim in that scenario of an insensitive husband. That does not mean he is not pleasing her sexually. It does not mean that hoping in the sack with the first moralless yahoo she finds on some web-site is going to give her the attention she craves which according to the commercial is not sexual.
Where I live the commercials do not tell the viewer to cheat it only presents itself as an option when divorce is not an option. So what they want you to believe is that they can help the two of you stay together by allowing either of you to go outside your marriage to get laid when in reality they are facilitating more damage to the marriage. If the other finds out they are being cheated on, rest assured that is likely to be the death nail of that marriage. Sad that it looks like an increasingly tolerant society can tolerate this.
If you feel like you want to cheat but at least have the decency to feel some guilt over it give me a call and lets try to work through your feelings so that you can remain committed to your relationship. We are all only human and I understand we at times are tempted and fail to resist. When there is love in our relationship I do not believe it should end over an affair. However, to deliberately seek extramarital affairs is something we should all reject. Consider the potential consequences and decide is it really worth destroying your marriage, hurting your children if you have any, as well as hurting your families and turning them against one another.