Tips for those considering moving in together
When you and I speak, I will base my advice on your particular set of circumstances. Until then I would like to focus on some tips that can be universally applied to most if not all situations. First let us consider how your choice as to where the two of you will live can make the honeymoon last. Next we examine how to make a clean break should the two of you decide your relationships works best when you both live apart from one another.
Should you move in with her, should she move in with you, or should you pick out a place together? Making the right decision here can reduce unnecessary squabbling over the pettiest of issues such as should the toilet tissue hang over the roll or should it be pulled on from under the roll?; Does the toilet seat belong up or down?; Should the plates be immediately rinsed and placed in the dishwasher or allowed to soak in a sink full of suds?; Cover or leave uncovered refrigerated leftovers?
Disagreements can arise over issues such as finances that are critical to making the living arrangement work. Again, the right decision from the onset as to who lives with who or where you both will move to can influence how those issues are addressed.
Understand that however committed a couple may be, they may not be meant to live together. This should not be a deal breaker in terms of whether the two of you remain romantically involved with one another or not. Not every relationship must culminate in a married couple living in a house with a white picket fence and the couple’s children playing in the yard with the family dog just like mom and dad’s marriage. If the two of you were happy before the two of you got it into your head that you should live together what is wrong with going back to what made you both happy?
You both need to keep that in mind as you pursue this endeavor so that you both are mentally prepared to transition back to how it was. Also understand in advance that this may not be by mutual agreement but you both now agree to then disagree because a house divided falls anyway. God forbid it should have to come to ending the living arrangement but having an outlook that will salvage what relationship you had before is not the only piece of advice I have for you. How you furnish your home can also promote that clean break that in turn makes the transition back to the way things were that much easier.
I would like to go into more detail with you about this when you call as well as be privy to your situation so that I can fine tune the details to better suit your situation, make an alternative recommendation, or additional recommendations based on the needs of your relationship. If calling is not possible, I am available via e-mail or in the very least a copy of this blog complete with the specific details is available for purchase. I appreciate your reading this blog. However I urge you to investigate this further, your relationship is worth it and depends on it!