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Special interest Article;
Anthony J. Iantosca, BCFE
IAFEI

Dysfunctional Personalities
Behavior Patterns
Part Three of Nine
Jealousy Continued;
 
With these Dysfunctional Personalities Jealousy is the most dangerous and the most corrosive behavior pattern. Jealousy is the great insecurity. It is the feeling/fear real or imagined that the personality is not getting the love, attention, affection or admiration that they deserve at this stage in their lives. All of us have felt a little insecure at times. This is not a problem, we deal with it in a reasonable manner. We have a healthy opinion of our own self worth. Most of us can validate ourselves from within we do not need others to validate our own self worth. These (DP) cannot. They need others do so.
 
 With these (DP) their Jealousy does not mean that Suzy Q has a new mink coat and I do not. This is more in line with Envy which is the kissing cousin of Jealousy. Many times Jealousy and Envy are confused with one another. When Jealousy enters into the Pathological area such as "Sexual Jealousy" or as it is labeled "Morbid Jealousy" also called the "Othello Syndrome". That is when Jealousy has entered into a very dangerous and volatile area. This is where the statement "If I can't have him or her nobody will"  Enters into the picture. Extremely Jealous personalities want to own and possess another person which is an  Physiological and Psychological impossibility. Not to the extremely Jealous personality. There are warning signs early in the relationship that should flag you to the possibility that your new love interest may be a very possessive and insecure personality. Handwriting Analysis is the quickest way to detect the trait of Jealousy and how consistent the trait is in the personality with the other underlying traits the will reinforce or reduce this fear trait and its potential for violence on a scale of one through ten.
 
  When the handwriting is not available early on in the relationship there are red flags (Behavior Patterns) that you should be aware of, remember falling in love takes time, personalities who fall deeply in love with you after three or four dates is always suspect. Personalities who need to call or text you all day, checking up on you, wanting to know who you are with, asking what time you will be home, becoming angry if you want time to spend time with your friends of family. Becoming involved in every aspect of your life in the early stages of your relationship. Becomes moody or angry when you want to do something that does involve him/her. Violates your personal space, checking your cell phone, computer. Wants to move the relationship faster than you would like, talks about moving in with you, getting married. Talks in terms that you are the one magic person that completes him or her. Extremely Jealous personalities are very controlling. You are their possession an object. Never confuse Jealousy with love. 
 
Other Behavior patterns I have associated in my working experience with these (DP) was the correlation between their Insecurity/Jealousy and their low sense of self worth and  what is called "Attachment Styles" There are four "Attachment Styles"  Secure, Anxious Pre-occupied, Avoidant, Fearful.
 
The Borderline/Narcissist behavior pattern was a combination of "Anxious Pre Occupied and Fearful"
The Narcissist behavior pattern was more "Avoidant"
 
I will list the four Attachment Styles below; 
 
Secure Attachment

Securely attached people tend to agree with the following statements: "It is relatively easy for me to become emotionally close to others. I am comfortable depending on others and having others depend on me. I don't worry about being alone or having others not accept me." This style of attachment usually results from a history of warm and responsive interactions with relationship partners. Securely attached people tend to have positive views of themselves and their partners. They also tend to have positive views of their relationships. Often they report greater satisfaction and adjustment in their relationships than people with other attachment styles. Securely attached people feel comfortable both with intimacy and with independence. Many seek to balance intimacy and independence in their relationship.

 

 Anxious-preoccupied Attachment

People who are anxious or preoccupied with attachment tend to agree with the following statements: "I want to be completely emotionally intimate with others, but I often find that others are reluctant to get as close as I would like. I am uncomfortable being without close relationships, but I sometimes worry that others don't value me as much as I value them." People with this style of attachment seek high levels of intimacy approval, and responsiveness from their partners. They sometimes value intimacy to such an extent that they become overly dependent on their partners-a condition colloquially termed clinginess. Compared to securely attached people, people who are anxious or preoccupied with attachment tend to have less positive views about themselves. They often doubt their worth as a partner and blame themselves for their partners' lack of responsiveness. People who are anxious or preoccupied with attachment may exhibit high levels of emotional expressiveness, worry, and impulsiveness in their relationships.

 

Avoidant Attachment

People with a dismissive style of avoidant attachment tend to agree with these statements: "I am comfortable without close emotional relationships. It is very important to me to feel independent and self-sufficient, and I prefer not to depend on others or have others depend on me." People with this attachment style desire a high level of independence. The desire for independence often appears as an attempt to avoid attachment altogether. They view themselves as self-sufficient and invulnerable to feelings associated with being closely attached to others. They often deny needing close relationships. Some may even view close relationships as relatively unimportant. Not surprisingly, they seek less intimacy with relationship partners, whom they often view less positively than they view themselves. Investigators commonly note the defensive character of this attachment style. People with a Avoidant attachment style tend to suppress and hide their feelings, and they tend to deal with rejection by distancing themselves from the sources of rejection (i.e., their relationship partners).

 

 Fearful Attachment

People with a fearful style of avoidant attachment tend to agree with the following statements: "I am somewhat uncomfortable getting close to others. I want emotionally close relationships, but I find it difficult to trust others completely, or to depend on them. I sometimes worry that I will be hurt if I allow myself to become too close to others." People with this attachment style have mixed feelings about close relationships. On the one hand, they desire to have emotionally close relationships. On the other hand, they tend to feel uncomfortable with emotional closeness. These mixed feelings are combined with negative views about themselves and their partners. They commonly view themselves as unworthy of responsiveness from their partners, and they don't trust the intentions of their partners. Similarly to the Avoidant attachment style, people with a Fearful attachment style seek less intimacy from partners and frequently suppress and hide their feelings. Instead, they are much less comfortable initially expressing affection.

 
Tomorrow Trait number Two (2)
Hyper Sensitive / Explosively Sensitive to Criticism pertaining to self and function.  
 
 
Special interest Article;
Anthony J. Iantosca, BCFE
IAFEI

Dysfunctional Personalities
Behavior Patterns
Part Two
Trait number (1)
Jealousy

This article is my personal experience dealing with these personalities and working with their significant other, explaining and helping them understand why their life is in such chaos and pain because of the extreme change in their behavior from the once loving, caring husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, to someone they do not recognize When handwriting was available, I looked for certain traits that would indicate future problems. The traits I would Detect, Identify, Analyze and Evaluate are based on a scale of 1-10. One being the lowest point of measurement ten being the highest point of measurement. Handwriting Analysis does not diagnose a Medical problem.
Only a Medical Professional can provide that diagnoses. My Threat Assessment Profile would give me the red flags that would indicate future problems once the Honeymoon Phase of the relationship is over.

When handwriting was not available, I based my profiles on behavior patterns that were consistent over a period of time. I have conducted extensive research and study over the last ten years on the behavior patterns of these Personality Types. The list of traits below were consistent in all of the Dysfunctional Personalities I profiled. All of the Dysfunctional Personalities were extreme in their behavior patterns, all were intense personalities (Heavy Pressured 4-6 Pressure Range) Their Emotional make up ran from Ambivert (Emotionally Controlled) to Extreme Extrovert (Emotionally Expressive). The Emotional Make up told me how quickly they would respond when triggered. The Heavy Pressured Ambivert was the most explosive when triggered. Ambiverts suppress their Emotions on a day to day basis to begin with until they cannot control their Emotions any longer and will just explode in a fit of rage and anger.

All of the Dysfunctional Personalities (DP) rated high in the following Traits and Behavior Patterns. I have started with the consistent traits found in all of the profiles I conducted and worked my way down to traits that were not always present or overtly expressed.
The language will be extreme from here on in, this is not for the faint of heart or people who are easily offended. The language is based on my working experience talking to my clients, listening to phone conversations and to recorded audio tapes,

1) Jealousy and Low Self Esteem

Jealousy is the great insecurity. This Fear Trait rated extremely high in all of the (DP) I profiled. This Jealousy was "Sexual Jealousy" or what is called "Morbid Jealousy" The most dangerous type of Jealousy. These extremely Insecure Personalities were the most volatile when their Abandonment Fears were triggered. They accused their partners of everything under the sun. They checked everything, their panties, their car, their phone, their face book page, tried to isolate them from family and friends, they are "Jealous" of their hobbies, anything that took attention away from them. You must remember with the "Insecure Personalities" Their "Imagination" becomes their reality. They watched their partner like a Hawk every time they went out.

Example #1 Heavy Pressured Male Ambivert

One lovely client who I am working with now called me in tears because she triggered his Abandonment Fears when she looked out the car window when her (DP) boyfriend, now husband was driving, her car by the way. A Black man was walking by, he accused her of looking at him. He lost his mind. He is now convinced she wants to bed black men. He went home and tore her house apart. He is now trying to force her into sexual acts that she will not do. This was proof to him she does not love him enough, he needs to be "Pacified and Reassured" of her undying love to him. So having sex with two or three men while he watches is the proof he said, he needs, that she loves him. She will not do it. The "Gas Lighting" begins. So he "Splits" her, from loving her to hating her. To show his contempt for her and everything she has worked for, her lovely home where he lives and is very Jealous of because it is "Her" house, he now will come home and piss in her kitchen sink while she is cooking dinner. He goes off into the other room and watches porno films and masturbates in front of her. He tells her he would rather play with himself than have sex with an dried up old ugly Bitch like her! She is only one year older than he is. The only way these (DP) feel better about themselves is to tear you down, to make you second guess yourself, to destroy your Confidence and Self Esteem. They must destroy in you what they lack in themselves. When she talks to me, I explain to her that she must set "Boundaries" when him. Do not let his "Gas Lighting" tactics and abusive behavior undermine you. With these (DP) you must command their respect. When she stands up for herself he back down for a little while, she thinks he is back to being the loving man she married. All he is doing is reeling back in. Once he feels she is back under his control, the bullshit starts all over again, only this and every time he plays this "Push Pull" tactic with her, the abuse gets progressively worse. This intermittent behavior pattern is what constitutes "Trauma Bonding" This man wants me dead. I help her to understand his personality, information is power. The last thing these insecure personalities want is for you to become informed. They use what is called in Psychology as "Reaction Formation" taking on the opposite behavior pattern then the true Emotion they are feeling inside them. Their mask is one of a confident, cocky, self assured personality that must show you that he/she could care less about you, they could care less if you leave them, they will replace you in five minutes. This tactic is nothing more than ego protection. Nothing could be further from the truth, in reality they are highly insecure three years old's who are very fearful that you will Abandon them. A pain they can not deal with. A pain they have been dealing with since childhood.

Example #2 Heavy Pressured Female Extrovert

Another client I was working with who was a (DP) believed her new boyfriend was cheating on her, again their "Imagination" becomes their reality. Her was not cheating on her. Nothing I could say to her would change her mind. Their relationship was not even one month old. She called me up and said "Tony that mother fucker is cheating on me, I know it! I will fix that prick!" I knew somehow he triggered her "Abandonment Fears" When in this "Emotional State" these (DP) will listen to nothing. She was screaming at me at the top of her lungs. She hung up the phone. She called me up a few weeks later "Tony, I was arrested and given a restraining order"
"I asked? what the hell happened?" She said " Tony, I just lost it. I broke into his house when he went to work, I tore every couch, curtain, bed, pillow, chair everything and anything I could get my hands on, into shreds. I took all his cloths, shoes, underwear, socks, put them in his front lawn and set fire to them, I watched them burn, I watched him burn"


Extreme Jealousy is a form of insanity, there is no Logic to these personalities when they are triggered. In one case I worked on, I heard these words " If I can't have her, nobody will have her" I talked with this man for over two weeks, I conducted a Threat Assessment Profile on him for the client who hired me. I stated point blank this very Jealous Male would harm his wife, she was in imminent danger. Two weeks later I received a call from the client who hired me. He killed his wife in a very horrific fashion. An act of extreme violence on an innocent woman that has haunted me to this day.

Special interest Article;
Anthony J. Iantosca, BCFE
IAFEI

 
Dysfunctional Personalities
Behavior Patterns
Part One of Nine
 
 
Over the last ten years I have worked with many people who are now or have been involved in relationships with Emotional Vampires. These personalities both male and female come from all walks of life and from every ethnic background. They are called by many different labels, Borderlines, Narcissist, Psychopaths or a co -morbid crossover of both. Borderlines have Narcissistic tendencies and are kissing cousins. Narcissists are not Borderlines. Narcissists may have Psychopathic tendencies but Psychopaths are not Narcissists.
Simply put, a Psychopath can live on an Island alone and survive. Being involved with a Psychopath, it is not a question of are you going to get hurt, it is a question of when.  A Narcissist cannot survive on an Island alone. A Narcissist needs outside sources other people to validate him/herself. Narcissists cannot validate themselves. Narcissists need Narcissistic Supply (NP) to survive day to day.  Narcissists accomplish this by being a Cerebral (Their intellect) or Semantic Narcissist (Their body, looks and by sexual conquests) Narcissists have and need both Primary and Secondary Sources of Narcissist Supply as Postulated by Sam Vaknin.
     
In this article I will explain the different behavior patterns of the Borderline/Narcissist Personalities. It is very important for those of you  who are suffering the pain and anguish having been involved with one of these Personalities or are currently involved in a relationship with one now.  The problem is not you, I repeat, the problem is not you. The problem is them. In my estimation of all the different dysfunctional personalities types the Psychopath is the most dangerous because of his/her complete lack of empathy for their victims. The Borderline is a close second, the Narcissist comes in third. I will try to explain the Borderline/ Narcissist Personality type.
It is very important for you to understand that these Personalities do not all act the same way. No two Borderlines will act the exact same way, it is on a bell curve. Their core issues of early childhood abandonment and emotional abuse set the template for their behavior patterns that they have now carried into their adult life and interactions with others. Their extreme fear of abandonment, their low self esteem and a true lack of "sense of self", who and what they are is the same but they will act out very differently from one another when their Abandonment Fears are triggered "Real or Imagined".
The best way for me to explain their behavior is this way, these personalities want to break your windows (Your heart) When they are triggered. One will throw a Rock, one will throw a Stick, one will use a Hammer, one will use a BB Gun. All act out differently, the end result is the same, your windows are broken.  Borderlines/Narcissists are the most difficult to understand when their Abandonment fears are triggered. Their behavior can run the gamut from mild abuse and gas lighting tactics to extreme violence depending on their Emotional Make up, Intensity Level and other underlying traits detected in their Personality Profile. Research has now stated that between 0/5 to 5 % of the adult population has Borderline behavior patterns divided equally between men and women. 
 
These personalities want love and to be with someone who loves them and believes understands them in the early stages of the relationship. The honeymoon stage. Emotions run high, the sex is great, you spend time together, you bond to each other, learn about each other, respect each other. The relationship starts off well,  they are the man or woman of your dreams. For "Normal"  functioning personalities this is what starts to build a strong bonding relationship with your partner.  For the Borderline/Narcissist it has just the opposite effect it triggers their Abandonment Fears. Why? These Personalities believe that anyone they have ever loved has left them or will Abandon them. You will be not different. This is all these personalities have ever known since childhood. When things are going smooth in your relationship and you are happy, these personalities become just the opposite they have made a mental association in their mind from childhood that "Pain and Chaos = Love". Without Drama, Chaos, Pain there is no love. They love the chase and the seduction phase this makes them feel alive. When these personalities want you they do not care if you are married, living with someone or in a relationship. If they can pull you away from your partner this just fuels their ego. They love it.
 
They have had many chaotic relationships, everyone has hurt them and abused them. All of their past relationships sound like the Amityville Horror. Abuse, drugs, rapes, fighting, affairs, restraining orders, abortions, drinking you name it, they cannot regulate their Emotions. They cannot self sooth, so they have many reckless behavior patterns to sooth their inner pain. Drugs, Alcohol, Eating, Sexual Affairs, Spending, and in the worst case scenarios Self Harm.   Yet they are never at fault. It is and always will be your fault.
These personalities are extremely jealous and insecure. They do not believe they are worthy of true love, that does not exist in their mind. They do not have a sense of their true self worth. They were not born this way they were made this way. These personalities when triggered will "Split You" this is their defense to impending Abandonment.  They love you one minute they hate you the next.
 
Their push pull tactics "Come here, go away will drive you insane". These Personalities are notorious for cutting off their finger to save their arm. If they believe you are going to Leave them "real or imagined" They will leave you before you leave them, they will cheat on you before you cheat on them. Everything and anything can and will trigger their "Abandonment Fears" If your are happy, if you spend to much time in your work, if you have very close friends, if you are independent and self confident. Anything that takes your attention off them, will trigger them into action. These Personalities do not love, believe or respect themselves do not expect them to love and respect you. Trying to prove to them otherwise is like pouring water into an endless pit. It is very important for you to remember You are dealing with a "Child in an Adult Body"  Trying to talk and express yourself rationally to these personalities is a waist of your time. Just like trying to talk to a child who is having a temper tantrum. You talk the child screams, yells and cries.
  
More behavior patterns tomorrow in part two.   
 
Special interest Article;
Anthony J. Iantosca, BCFE
IAFEI
 
Sexual Compatibility
Handwriting Analysis
 
Is it possible to analyze samples of handwriting to determine how sexually compatible you are with your mate or new love interest? The answer is yes. Once we have determined the Emotional make up and the Intensity level of the Personality in question. We have determined their thinking process. The profiler would determine  the Primary and Inferior writing zones. In all forms of Handwriting Analysis there are three zones of writing recognized as having a direct correlation between the mental attitude of the writer and his/her handwriting. These writing zones are identified as the Middle, Upper and Lower zones. Today we will be focusing on the Lower zones. The Lower Zones indicate the attitude the personality has regarding Food, Water/Alcohol, Money and Sex.  
 
There is two types of imagination "Upper Imagination"  Shown in the upper extensions of the "L" "H" "K" "F" "B"  This is the Philosophical/intellectual area of the writer.  When identifying the Sexual want, need and desire of the Personality. The profiler would Detect, Identify, Analyze and Evaluate the traits found in the Lower Extensions the Personalities Physical Zones the writers Physical/Sexual Imagination. These traits are shown in the lower case letters "G" "Y" "Q" "F" and "P"  The lower case letters "Y" and "G"  Which are synonymous, tells the Profiler the sexual drive of the personality.
 
Emotional Make up;
 
The Emotional make up is very important to understand. Introverts, Ambiverts and Extroverts are very different from one another when expressing their Emotional/Sexual wants, needs and desires. Lets start with the Introvert.
 To the Introvert personality sex is more a means to an end, to acquire what ever it was that they want, it is also just another appetite to be fulfilled rather than an intense bonding emotional love making session. 
 
 In my early years in Profiling I spent a great deal of time with a very close friend of mine in Boston's Chinatown at that time he was working at the "Naked I"  A very well known strip club in what was called Boston's Combat Zone. I would meet him there and wait until he finished work. When he finished work we would go out and eat. I had an opportunity to sit and talk to many of the girls who worked there. They knew I was an Handwriting Expert and would come up and talk to me in between their sets, they would give me samples of their handwriting and ask me questions about themselves. They were very open and they talked very honestly to me. Most of the women I talked to were Introverts. There was one or two exceptions in the mix of women I talked to but most were Introverts. All of them said the same thing to me, "It's work. No more, No less". The men give me money, I will do what they want. No Emotion, no love, no nothing. When they finished work they went home to their husbands, boyfriends, etc. Many were married, some were putting themselves through College. They told me point blank I have a body, I am using it to support myself. They had their regulars who came in to see them, they told me the regulars think I care about them, I act, like I care about them, I don't.  The bottom line with them was show me the money. No more, no less. I asked them did you ever get Emotionally involved with any of your regulars? Everyone of them answered the same way, are you kidding. No way, they are nothing more to me than a meal ticket. Not all Introverts are strippers, the point I am trying to make here is the way the Introvert looks at sex and emotion. It is an means to an end. Introverts live by a code, what is in the best interest of me. Being involved with a Severe Introverted Personality you will always feel a detached, cold way about them. They are very good at manipulation and can come across as loving, caring Personalities when there is something they want. Remember they were not born this way, they were made this way due to early childhood trauma's. To the Severe Introvert Emotion is viewed as as weakness.     
 
Ambiverts can be very sexual personalities, it just takes time for you to get close to them. They need to be reassured that you do not want them for just sex, they are not being used. Emotion is not their strong suit. They feel Emotion like everyone else they just deal with it differently. It takes time for them to trust you, to get to know you. They are also not very imaginative when it comes to sex, the number one complaint I hear from their  Extroverted partner is their Ambiverted partners lack of imagination and interest in experimentation. Ambiverts have a tendency to always do what has worked for them in the past in their desire to please their partner, it is much safer for them, if they know you like things a certain that is what they will do every time. You must explain to the Ambivert that there are other possibilities that will make the interaction a little more exciting, once they know or try something different  they will do what ever makes you happy within reason, Again they will now continue in that behavior until the more Emotional Extrovert gets them to expand on the new behavior. Ambiverts can be more mundane, routine, are more reserved and traditional in their sexual expression.   They have had very few partners being one person, one place, one thing  type of personality.  They also have a tendency to shut down when under stress.  I have known them to shut down for weeks or months. With Ambiverts you must work them from the head down. They need time to get warmed up and to get into the mood. The last thing you want to do with the Ambivert personality is just drop sex on them on a moments notice. It is not something that most of them deal with very well. Does this mean that all Ambiverts are somewhat cold or sexually disappointing? No, it does not hold true for every Ambivert. What it does mean is that the sexual interests, capabilities, imagination and performance of the Ambivert is somewhat more restricted and less intense than that of the Extrovert. Also their physical imagination "traits" must be taken into consideration, what are their lower extensions shown in the "Y"  "G"  "P" "Q" "F"  which reflects the sexual appetite and drive of the writer.   Ambiverts are usually attracted to a thinner in shape body type.
 
The Extroverted Personality is normally more open, uninhibited and very imaginative. They have experienced many different partners, many have been involved in threesomes, some may have experienced a Bi Sexual experience or two. They enjoy a romantic and sensual movie or make their own home video. Extroverts will try anything once. They often fantasize about enjoying multiple sexual experiences. Extroverts are Emotional personalities and can deal with and express their Emotions very easily. Extroverts are very responsive types of Personalities. Extroverts are and can be very provocative.     Extroverts are more attracted to a full body personality type.
 
Explanation of the Lower Zone traits found in the "Y" and "G"  There are many other traits that the Profiler would Detect, Identify, Analyze and Evaluate in a Comprehensive profile, today I will explain just the information I would Identify in the Lower Case "Y" and "G"
  
1) Loner;  Lower extensions devoid of a lower loop indicates a personality who prefers their own company. They have a reduced sexual drive.
 
2) Stroke that comes down and swings back to the left and does not continue back up to the base line. This tells the Profiler the writer lives in the past and compares past experiences with present experiences.  
 
3) Selectivity;  Long narrow loops indicate the writer is selective in what they do, who they are with and where they go. This also tells the profiler they are also very selective in the sex they would like or dislike. Example: They make enjoy oral sex but dislike anal sex or vise a versa. You would need to talk to your partner and determine what they are or not into sexually.
 
4) Varity; Lower extensions with a wide lower loop. This tells the profiler the Personality enjoys Varity in the people they are with, the places they like to go, the food they like to eat and the sex they like to have. Sexually these personalities are more open to experimentation and will try anything once.
 
5) Sexually Overactive; Extremely large inflated lower loops. In heavy pressure which most of these personalities have, they are wild. They are game for anything and have very intense sexual drives. These Personalities color outside the lines.
 
6) Angular lower loops; When written by a male indicates a Personality who is frugal with an eye for the ladies. When written by a female she finds safety in the company of other females. She is often well groomed and displays nail polish on her finger and toenails.
 
7) Twisted lower loops; This lower loop comes back up and twists around the down stroke of the "Y" and "G" This indicates the Personality is sexually frustrated. They are very sexual Personalities but they may not be getting the sex the way they need it. This would indicate their partner is not into something they need to satisfy their sexual wants or needs.  
 
8) Clannish;  Very small lower loop at the bottom of the "Y" and "G"  This indicates a Clannish Personality who feels safe and secure within the family unit. They prefer socializing with a small group of family or friends. This is safer for them. These personalities can maintain control and do not feel under attack or scrutinized by those present.
 
If you should have any questions about the traits I have explained please ask.
 

  
 
         
Special interest Article;
Anthony J. Iantosca, BCFE
IAFEI

Non Verbal Communication
Orientation Reflex
 
In non Non Verbal communication The Orientation Reflex as it is called, is hard wired into our brains as a means of protecting ourselves from predators. Just as it was a million years ago as we were running around on the plains of Africa, as early hominids. It is the organism's immediate response to a change in its environment, when that change is not sudden enough to elicit the startle reflex, which will react in the "Freeze, Flight, Fight response".
 
Movement attracts attention, our Limbic Brain through our eyes  will without thought, immediately turn to the moving object for a split second to analyze the movement for any possible threat to our safety and well being. As we have evolved this response is also used when we are in a courtship mode or when someone male/female is looking to get your attention or the attention of other people in their environment. You will see this behavior when in a club or bar when people want attention. They will get up, move around, talk louder than necessary, the so called walk by, they will go back and forth to the men's or women's room. They are saying Hay! Notice me.   So the next time you are sitting with your boyfriend or girlfriend and someone walks by and it breaks their attention for a split second and they look at the person moving by them do not take it personality. They are not being disrespectful to you.
 
Unless their attention on the person is longer than a split second. If they look at the person moving pass them for three or more seconds, then that is a different story, they like what they see. They are being obvious about it.
This may cause a little tension and friction between the two of you or what may result in three of the seven Universal Tells, postulated by Darwin and Dr. Paul EKman, Ph.D called;  Anger, Disgust, and Contempt  being expressed from your mate. There are two more "Tells" that will be expressed that seem to be Universal Expressions and never listed by Darwin or Dr. EKman, Ph,D   Called " Hot Tongue and Cold Shoulder" 
Special interest Article;
Anthony J. Iantosca, BCFE
IAFEI

Mommy Issues/Daddy Issues
 
 
No, it is the Behavior Patterns that your early childhood care givers exhibited that you are making the emotional connection with. It did not matter who it was per say, your mother, father, grandmother, etc. It was their intermittent or abusive behavior patterns in your early childhood years that you were ill equipped to deal with or understand that set the blueprint for your behavior patterns today in adult life. It is what is called a "Repetition Complex". Many times my clients ask me why do I always fall for the same type of male or female who treats me badly. The reason is that you are responding to the same behavior patterns you remember as a child. It is not the adult in you that is responding or attracted to these emotional vampires, it is the child in you that is responding.  Remember the sub conscious mind has no conception of time, it does not reason, it does not rationalize.  
 
As a child you did not have the emotional experience/knowledge to understand why you were being abused or mistreated. All you could understand at that young age is that their must be something wrong with me, I am bad, I am unlovable. Why are you "Abandoning Me"  both emotionally and physically. Why are you beating me, hurting me?  It must be because I am bad and worthless.  So what does the child do at that young age to get the love and security that the child so desperately wants and needs?   The only thing the child can do, chase and continue to try and prove to their caregivers that I am good, I am lovable, I am sorry, I will not do this again, please love me!  The real problem is the poor child never knew what the hell they did in the first place to be at the receiving end of all this mistreatment. The child did not have the emotional intelligence/experience or understanding to realize that it was their primary caregivers that were the problem.  
 
So the tape was made (Your emotional behavior pattern). The blueprint was set. You meet someone in your adult life, their intermittent and abusive behavior patterns is what attracts you. Not you the rational adult, you the child. So what does the Adult/Child do? The only thing they can do, the only thing they have ever known.  The exact same things you did as a child, chase, chase, try to prove that you are a lovable person so you are not abandoned again. In your mind, if I can have this new person ( Who represents the same behavior patterns as your primary care givers) love and accept me, all past sins will be forgiven. " Repetition Complex"  This is never the case, you can learn from history but you cannot rewrite history. It is time to erase the old tape it does not work anymore.
 
Think about this my friends, if you were not abused as a child and had a somewhat normal life where you were loved and accepted for the wonderful child you were and are. Had the coping skills, where your self esteem was not shattered and beaten down. Where you learned to love, trust and be loved and trusted. Would you as an adult be with people who would abuse and mistreat you, emotionally, physically or sexually. I think not. To change old behavior patterns (The tape) is not easy but it is not impossible. You have the power within you to make the change or erase the old tape. Do it!  
  
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Anthony J. Iantosca, BCFE
IAFEI
 
Woody Allen
 
I read Mr. Allen's statement that he posted a few days ago in his response to child molestation charges. I will post Mr. Allen's statement below. He was being accused of child molestation by his  young daughter Dylan.  Most of his denial was attacking Farrow and what others have stated, rather than what he did or did not do. In statement Analysis we do not interpret what you are saying, I believe everything you say.    "I can't believe you did or did not do something unless you tell me so." He is expecting everyone else to believe he is innocent rather than stating he is.   He used the words "I didn't" through his statement when he was stating everything other than the actual molestation itself.  The words "I didn't" is what we expect an innocent to say when being accused of something they did not do. It is rare that a guilty person will state "I Didn't" do this or that in their statement. They will use words that sound like a good denial but will fall short of saying "I didn't do it"    
 
  At the end of his long statement ,the last paragraph he starts of with "Of course I did not "   The words "Of course" is not needed here, the shortest sentence/ statement is the best statement. Mr. Allen is qualifying  the denial which to me weakens the statement. Mr. Allen is using an expanded contraction, when he starts his denial.  Using the expanded contraction of  "I did not"  falls short of stating " I didn't do it"  Expanded contractions are an over compensation.  
 
 Also it depends on how Allen thinks what constitutes "Child molestation"  as Clinton used in his " I did not have sexual relations with that woman"  To Mr. Clinton anything less than intercourse was not sexual relations.  This is called weaving a lie within a truthful statement.
What does Mr. Allen think constitutes "Molestation"  anything less than penetrating Dylan with he finger or penis.  I find his denial very weak, also his statement of never talking about this again. The innocent go forward not backward. If this were you or I, we would be in their face every second until this was over with and we proved our innocents, he on the other hand is treating this as a Clinton vast right wing conspiracy type of situation. Mr. Allen is trying to make you feel stupid for bringing this up.
Do I believe Mr. Allen, I find his statement very weak.
 
Mr. Allen's Statement;
 
Woody Allen responds to Farrow's abuse claims in letter

LOS ANGELES (AP) — Woody Allen is again denying he molested adoptive daughter Dylan Farrow and is calling ex-partner Mia Farrow vindictive, spiteful and malevolent in an open letter published online Friday by The New York Times.

The 78-year-old filmmaker says Dylan Farrow's open letter published last week includes "creative flourishes that seem to have magically appeared during our 21-year estrangement."

At the time of the breakup of their 12-year relationship more than two decades ago, Mia Farrow accused Allen of molesting Dylan. Allen has consistently denied the abuse allegation.

Allen claims in his letter 7-year-old Dylan was coached by Mia Farrow.

Dylan Farrow claimed in her open letter that Allen abused her in 1992 at the family's Connecticut home.

Allen said his letter will be his final word on the matter.

Here is the full letter below:

"TWENTY-ONE years ago, when I first heard Mia Farrow had accused me of child molestation, I found the idea so ludicrous I didn’t give it a second thought. We were involved in a terribly acrimonious breakup, with great enmity between us and a custody battle slowly gathering energy. The self-serving transparency of her malevolence seemed so obvious I didn’t even hire a lawyer to defend myself. It was my show business attorney who told me she was bringing the accusation to the police and I would need a criminal lawyer.

I naïvely thought the accusation would be dismissed out of hand because of course, I hadn’t molested Dylan and any rational person would see the ploy for what it was. Common sense would prevail. After all, I was a 56-year-old man who had never before (or after) been accused of child molestation. I had been going out with Mia for 12 years and never in that time did she ever suggest to me anything resembling misconduct. Now, suddenly, when I had driven up to her house in Connecticut one afternoon to visit the kids for a few hours, when I would be on my raging adversary’s home turf, with half a dozen people present, when I was in the blissful early stages of a happy new relationship with the woman I’d go on to marry — that I would pick this moment in time to embark on a career as a child molester should seem to the most skeptical mind highly unlikely. The sheer illogic of such a crazy scenario seemed to me dispositive.

Notwithstanding, Mia insisted that I had abused Dylan and took her immediately to a doctor to be examined. Dylan told the doctor she had not been molested. Mia then took Dylan out for ice cream, and when she came back with her the child had changed her story. The police began their investigation; a possible indictment hung in the balance. I very willingly took a lie-detector test and of course passed because I had nothing to hide. I asked Mia to take one and she wouldn’t. Last week a woman named Stacey Nelkin, whom I had dated many years ago, came forward to the press to tell them that when Mia and I first had our custody battle 21 years ago, Mia had wanted her to testify that she had been underage when I was dating her, despite the fact this was untrue. Stacey refused. I include this anecdote so we all know what kind of character we are dealing with here. One can imagine in learning this why she wouldn’t take a lie-detector test.

Meanwhile the Connecticut police turned for help to a special investigative unit they relied on in such cases, the Child Sexual Abuse Clinic of the Yale-New Haven Hospital. This group of impartial, experienced men and women whom the district attorney looked to for guidance as to whether to prosecute, spent months doing a meticulous investigation, interviewing everyone concerned, and checking every piece of evidence. Finally they wrote their conclusion which I quote here: “It is our expert opinion that Dylan was not sexually abused by Mr. Allen. Further, we believe that Dylan’s statements on videotape and her statements to us during our evaluation do not refer to actual events that occurred to her on August 4th, 1992... In developing our opinion we considered three hypotheses to explain Dylan’s statements. First, that Dylan’s statements were true and that Mr. Allen had sexually abused her; second, that Dylan’s statements were not true but were made up by an emotionally vulnerable child who was caught up in a disturbed family and who was responding to the stresses in the family; and third, that Dylan was coached or influenced by her mother, Ms. Farrow. While we can conclude that Dylan was not sexually abused, we can not be definite about whether the second formulation by itself or the third formulation by itself is true. We believe that it is more likely that a combination of these two formulations best explains Dylan’s allegations of sexual abuse.”

Could it be any clearer? Mr. Allen did not abuse Dylan; most likely a vulnerable, stressed-out 7-year-old was coached by Mia Farrow. This conclusion disappointed a number of people. The district attorney was champing at the bit to prosecute a celebrity case, and Justice Elliott Wilk, the custody judge, wrote a very irresponsible opinion saying when it came to the molestation, “we will probably never know what occurred.”

But we did know because it had been determined and there was no equivocation about the fact that no abuse had taken place. Justice Wilk was quite rough on me and never approved of my relationship with Soon-Yi, Mia’s adopted daughter, who was then in her early 20s. He thought of me as an older man exploiting a much younger woman, which outraged Mia as improper despite the fact she had dated a much older Frank Sinatra when she was 19. In fairness to Justice Wilk, the public felt the same dismay over Soon-Yi and myself, but despite what it looked like our feelings were authentic and we’ve been happily married for 16 years with two great kids, both adopted. (Incidentally, coming on the heels of the media circus and false accusations, Soon-Yi and I were extra carefully scrutinized by both the adoption agency and adoption courts, and everyone blessed our adoptions.)

Mia took custody of the children and we went our separate ways.

I was heartbroken. Moses was angry with me. Ronan I didn’t know well because Mia would never let me get close to him from the moment he was born and Dylan, whom I adored and was very close to and about whom Mia called my sister in a rage and said, “He took my daughter, now I’ll take his.” I never saw her again nor was I able to speak with her no matter how hard I tried. I still loved her deeply, and felt guilty that by falling in love with Soon-Yi I had put her in the position of being used as a pawn for revenge. Soon-Yi and I made countless attempts to see Dylan but Mia blocked them all, spitefully knowing how much we both loved her but totally indifferent to the pain and damage she was causing the little girl merely to appease her own vindictiveness.

Here I quote Moses Farrow, 14 at the time: “My mother drummed it into me to hate my father for tearing apart the family and sexually molesting my sister.” Moses is now 36 years old and a family therapist by profession. “Of course Woody did not molest my sister,” he said. “She loved him and looked forward to seeing him when he would visit. She never hid from him until our mother succeeded in creating the atmosphere of fear and hate towards him.” Dylan was 7, Ronan 4, and this was, according to Moses, the steady narrative year after year.

I pause here for a quick word on the Ronan situation. Is he my son or, as Mia suggests, Frank Sinatra’s? Granted, he looks a lot like Frank with the blue eyes and facial features, but if so what does this say? That all during the custody hearing Mia lied under oath and falsely represented Ronan as our son? Even if he is not Frank’s, the possibility she raises that he could be, indicates she was secretly intimate with him during our years. Not to mention all the money I paid for child support. Was I supporting Frank’s son? Again, I want to call attention to the integrity and honesty of a person who conducts her life like that.

NOW it’s 21 years later and Dylan has come forward with the accusations that the Yale experts investigated and found false. Plus a few little added creative flourishes that seem to have magically appeared during our 21-year estrangement.

Not that I doubt Dylan hasn’t come to believe she’s been molested, but if from the age of 7 a vulnerable child is taught by a strong mother to hate her father because he is a monster who abused her, is it so inconceivable that after many years of this indoctrination the image of me Mia wanted to establish had taken root? Is it any wonder the experts at Yale had picked up the maternal coaching aspect 21 years ago? Even the venue where the fabricated molestation was supposed to have taken place was poorly chosen but interesting. Mia chose the attic of her country house, a place she should have realized I’d never go to because it is a tiny, cramped, enclosed spot where one can hardly stand up and I’m a major claustrophobe. The one or two times she asked me to come in there to look at something, I did, but quickly had to run out. Undoubtedly the attic idea came to her from the Dory Previn song, “With My Daddy in the Attic.” It was on the same record as the song Dory Previn had written about Mia’s betraying their friendship by insidiously stealing her husband, André, “Beware of Young Girls.” One must ask, did Dylan even write the letter or was it at least guided by her mother? Does the letter really benefit Dylan or does it simply advance her mother’s shabby agenda? That is to hurt me with a smear. There is even a lame attempt to do professional damage by trying to involve movie stars, which smells a lot more like Mia than Dylan.

After all, if speaking out was really a necessity for Dylan, she had already spoken out months earlier in Vanity Fair. Here I quote Moses Farrow again: “Knowing that my mother often used us as pawns, I cannot trust anything that is said or written from anyone in the family.” Finally, does Mia herself really even believe I molested her daughter? Common sense must ask: Would a mother who thought her 7-year-old daughter was sexually abused by a molester (a pretty horrific crime), give consent for a film clip of her to be used to honor the molester at the Golden Globes?

Of course, I did not molest Dylan. I loved her and hope one day she will grasp how she has been cheated out of having a loving father and exploited by a mother more interested in her own festering anger than her daughter’s well-being. Being taught to hate your father and made to believe he molested you has already taken a psychological toll on this lovely young woman, and Soon-Yi and I are both hoping that one day she will understand who has really made her a victim and reconnect with us, as Moses has, in a loving, productive way. No one wants to discourage abuse victims from speaking out, but one must bear in mind that sometimes there are people who are falsely accused and that is also a terribly destructive thing. (This piece will be my final word on this entire matter and no one will be responding on my behalf to any further comments on it by any party. Enough people have been hurt.)"

 
 
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Anthony J. Iantosca, BCFE
IAFEI

Serial Killers/Rapists
Handwriting Analysis
 
I had a long decision yesterday with a student who had read a few articles regarding the handwriting of famous Serial Murders / Serial Rapists and how these Handwriting Experts could pin point certain traits found within their handwriting that could/would identify the possibility that these personalities are or would be Serial Murders / Serial Rapists. I can tell you point blank that this is nothing but non sense.
There is not one shred of Scientific Evidence to substantiate those clams. There is not one Handwriting Trait that will tell a competent Examiner that this Personality/Writer is or would be a Serial Murder/Rapist.
 
What confuses most readers, students, clients is that all of these Experts are analyzing the handwriting of a famous Serial Murder/ Rapist after they have been caught. They are very good at analyzing and identifying the so called traits found in the handwriting of these personalities already knowing the crimes that they have committed.   
 
Where were these Experts before the personality was caught? Any Forensic Examiner who made a statement the this writer is or would be a Serial Murder/Rapist based on a handwritten trait would be sued and most likely be living in the basement of their parents home.  
As Forensic Profilers all we can say when asked to analyze a sample or samples of handwriting or asked to explain behavior patterns is "What is the best I can hope for" "What is the worst I can expect"  from this personality under controlled / uncontrolled circumstances. There are traits that we would, Detect, Identify, Analyze and Evaluate that will give us a clear picture of the frame of mind the writer was in at the time the document was penned.
Before we even attempt to analyze a sample of handwriting we need to know the following; the circumstances under which the document was penned, is the writer suffering from a medical condition of some kind, is the writer under any prescription drugs, was the writer under the influence of alcohol or drugs when the document was penned.
All of these possibilities must be investigated and ruled in or out before a competent Threat Assessment can be undertaken. Anything less than that, is nothing but fortune telling.   
 
 
 
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Anthony J. Iantosca, BCFE

Intensity / Writing Pressure

 
Before I get into explaining the trait of "Intensity" Please understand this trait does not mean who is better than who, who is smarter than who. It is a measure of how much energy/ mental strength this personality has. This trait drives all of the other traits we Detect, Identify, Analyze and Evaluate in a sample of handwriting, just as the gas in your car is needed to start and run your automobile.     
It is a trait you were born with. You cannot change this trait, although it will fluctuate at times due to illness, fatigue, mental burn out, etc. With proper rest, nutrition or getting over a medical issue of some kind. This trait, your intensity, will return back to it's normal level.     
In Handwriting Analysis a personalities mental strength "Intensity" is a very important trait  to understand. The slant pattern of the handwriting is trait 1-A , this is the personalities Emotional make up. How the personality deals with, responds to and expresses Emotion. We all feel Emotion the same way but deal with, express and respond differently based on our Emotional make up.
 
   The Intensity/ Pressure is trait 1-B and is found by looking at a sample of handwriting and measuring the thickness of the writing stroke. It is not how physically big, strong and tall the personality is. This is a measure of the personalities mental strength. How much gas does this personality have in their Psychic gas tank at any one given time. In profiling this trait is the most misunderstood. It has caused many of the misunderstandings between couples, friends, family and business associates. The reason being everyone looks at the world by how they think , feel and respond. People have a tendency to think everyone thinks, feels and responds the same way as they do. Intense personalities both male and female have a tendency to kill an mosquito with an elephant gun.  They can be very hard driving and overpowering in everything they do. These personalities have unusual amounts of energy, creativity, drive, endurance and staying power. This is an indicator of deep sensuality and artistic tendencies in all forms.
 
 These personalities are not behaving or acting this way for dramatic effect. This is just how they are. They do not realize that their intense personalities can make the lighter pressure personalities feel somewhat uncomfortable and overwhelmed by their intense emotional energy. These personalities have very little gray. This causes them problems in their personal and professional lives. When they love and are in a positive frame of mind they will indulge with pleasure. They constantly give you their energy in the form of love and happiness, these personalities can never do enough for you. This is something that should never be taken for granted. These personalities can be very gregarious depending on their emotional make up. They are aggressive, confident, with unbelievable staying power and strong lasting endurance. They can and do work long hours without any difficulty.
 
 When they are in a negative frame of mind they can become very aggressive and even abusive. They can be very unforgiving if offended or double crossed. Due to their intensity they absorb (as a sponge absorbs water) both positive and negative forms of emotion. When they love they love deeply but when they are triggered and go into a negative frame of mind and become angry they are consumed by the emotion. They can hold grudges for years and become an unforgiving enemy for life. The key to these personalities is their endurance. Many times people misread these personalities. Intense personalities do not want to get into a confrontation with you since it is so emotionally draining for them. Most times they will just ignore you and go about their business. The problem is when the lighter pressure takes their actions as being a coward and keeps provoking these intense personalities thinking their being funny. This is not something you should consider doing. Never play with the emotions of a heavy pressured / intense personality. When they a good they are lovely personalities but then they are triggered and turn negative they are a force to contend with, male or female it does not matter.  
 
These personalities do not deal well with nonsense, wishy washy, indecisive people. These personalities can smell a phony within two minutes of meeting him/her. What is important to remember is these personalities are very loving, compassionate, emotionally deep, creative, sexual and hard driving, hard working personalities. They are extreme in everything they do. It is when their intensity/energy is triggered negatively that they become a very serious problem. They focus all of that energy to one mission/goal, that is to destroy you.  
If you have any questions on intensity/ pressure please ask, I will be more than happy to answer you.      
    
Merry Christmas
 
Thank you all for listening to my rants and my warped sense of humor during this past year. I hope, I have made you all laugh and smile a little more. Regardless of our differences, we are all brothers and sisters. We all share the same wants, needs and hopes for our tiny planet called Earth. God bless each and everyone of you. God bless our service men and women for the freedom they give me. God bless the USA. Above all else, Thank You for the honor of allowing me to be a part of your lives.    
I want  to wish all of my students, members, clients, friends and loved ones a very Merry Christmas and a healthy and prosperous New Year. Chinese New Year is on Friday, January 31, 2014 the Year of the Horse. The Year 2014 is the 4711th Chinese year.
 
Tony
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Anthony J. Iantosca, BCFE


Understanding Human Behavior
Empathy

I did not know how to write about this topic today, so I am going to express my own personal views.
Dealing with and working with personalities of all shapes, sizes, colors and ethnic backgrounds over the last seventeen years, I have had to look at not only their behavior and the stress, hurt and pain that they cause others. I also had to get into their shoes and understand the stress, hurt and pain that they feel on a constant daily basis. I had to remind myself that these personalities were not born that way, they were made that way. Aside from the Psychopath who lacks any empathy and may have a genetic reason for their behavior. Research is still out on the cause, is it genetic, or childhood traumas? Nature vs Nurture. Or a combination of both. For many of the other personalities who were never given the love, caring and nurturing as a young child who were emotionally, physically or sexually abused. Who were abandoned both emotionally or physically, they had to come up with a set of defense tactics to ease the pain. That pain is still alive and kicking everyday of their lives. The defense tactics that they use is all they know.
When these personalities are triggered it is not the adult you are seeing, it is the child you are seeing.
Remember the sub conscious mind has not conception of time. Their wounds never close, no one ever took the time to help them close those wounds. It was easy for people just to state they are crazy, nuts or game players. Never taking the time to understand why.
Their whole life is based on flawed sense of self worth never believing in themselves, because growing up as a child the people in their lives never expressed that they loved and believed in them. Just imagine living the same childhood horror day after day. The "Repetition Complex" Trying to right old childhood wounds that can never be changed or fixed in the way these personalities are going about it. Most of the time they do not even realize they are doing it. It is not a conscious act. That is what makes my job so difficult everyday. Yes, I profile you, I warn my clients of what behavior can be expected from you. Yet, I feel and understand you at the same time. I get into your shoes. I know you are not born evil, even though many people would disagree with me. You see, I know the difference, "You were not born that way" You were made that way" This was not your fault.
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Anthony J. Iantosca, BCFE
IAFEI
 
Three Phases of love
         And
Love/Relationship Addiction
 
 
Over the last year and a half I have spent a great deal of time in research on Addiction, I have worked with two Psychologists and a Psychiatrist trying to find a logical explanation for Addiction . Not Addiction in the sex, drug, gambling sense. Although all addictions seem to take place in the same regions of the brain. I was researching the cause of  "Love or Relationship Addiction" and why people are drawn to the same types of personalities over and over again. What causes them to stay in abusive relationships with people who abuse them Emotionally, Sexually and Physically. The explanations I received were very good but they did not answer the nagging question as to "What is driving these personalities"  The explanation on the early childhood traumas and the "Repetition Complex"  and being addicted to the "Highs and Lows" of a very Emotional unstable relationship were good but I knew there was more to it. I was taught me in my early Profiling years "Tony we are Profilers and Investigators"  It is not enough to explain to our client when we have detected, identified and analyzed a trait  but also what that trait means, what may have caused it and what we can do to help the client to understand it. Please understand I am not a Psychologist nor am I trying to act like one. I am a profiler. I hope this article will help you understand this very complex behavior pattern called, "Love/Relationship Addiction" 

Phase One;
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When in love Chemicals in the Brain such as Dopamine ( One of the reasons drugs are called Dope) and Norepinephrine spark feelings of happiness and excitement within our brain and bodies.
Dopamine levels increase as does levels of Oxytocin. Cortisol a stress hormone goes down.

Phase Two;

Kissing ,touching, hugging and increased sexual contact keeps Dopamine and Oxytocin flowing within the Brain.
It has been noted people who are in love have low levels of Serotonin. People who have OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) are insensitive to Serotonin. So love becomes an Obsession.

Phase Three;

When someone is dumped or rejected this Obsession intensifies, memories of the lost love overwhelms the rejected person's brain. The breakup becomes a puzzle that must be solved this process is called " Frustration Attraction" rejection keeps Serotonin levels low which fuels the "Obsession" and stimulates production of Dopamine which intensifies the passion. The rejection is also very stressful which increases the production of "Norepinephrine" a stress hormone, as far as the brain is concerned physical pain and the pain of rejection is the same thing. Activating the same areas of the brain. Love hurts as much as any physical wound.
With most people after a period of time the person realizes that it will not get the love or love interest back it craves like a drug. Levels of Dopamine and Serotonin normalize. With other personalities this cycle continues for extended periods of time.



Relationship Addiction
 
 
 
 Love/relationship Addiction is very complex but I have come to learn that the same factors that take place in the Limbic Brain when someone is addicted to drugs or any other Addiction also takes place in the region of the Brain's Limbic System with a "Love / Relationship Addiction"  Co- Dependency and Love Addiction are similar in appearance and behavior, but are not the same. They are kissing cousins so to speak. Up until the early 1980's it was termed Co-Alcoholic it was then termed Co-Dependent now it is termed Relationship Addiction.
 
 
Phase One;
 
The cycle starts in early childhood with personalities who were not given the love, caring, nurturing and sense of security from primary caregivers. Personalities who have a low sense of self worth (Low Self-Esteem) can end up with an Anxious Preoccupied Attachment Style and fall victim to a Repetition Complex where they attach themselves to personalities who closely resembles the behavior patterns of their childhood primary care givers. In their mind being loved and accepted by this new similar in behavior personality will fix all of the old wounds from the past, this concept is doomed to fail. We can learn from history but can not rewrite it. So this personality goes from relationship to relationship always seeking out the same personality type  who's behavior was similar to the childhood care giver who abused them in the past, many times without even realizing they are doing it. All in a failed attempt to right childhood wrongs. The personality attempts to acquire the love and affection that was denied them in childhood. There is much more to this behavior pattern which I will explain in other articles. For now this is the first stage.
 
Phase Two;
 
How is the Brain involved?  This is what caused me the most confusion.
In everything I was taught over the years is, that the Brain runs from pain and towards pleasure. This is true we are hard wired to protect ourselves from danger and pain. The Limbic System ( Our Emotional Brain) has a very simple protocol called the Freeze, Flight, Fight response. Which protects us from danger and unpleasant/painful situations.  So why run toward a painful and sometimes dangerous person/situation.   
This is where the Brain comes in and the Peptides within the Brain that the personality can and does become addicted to, this is called, Cellular Addiction. The same areas of the Brain that react to Heroin or Cocaine use that have shown increased activity in FMRI scans also show the same increased activity in the same area of the Brain when a person falls in love.    
In my early years of training Ron taught me "Tony there is no Logic to Emotion" He was so right, this may explain why. In the Trine Brain theory postulated in 1952 by Dr. Paul MacLean we have the Reptilian Stem, the Limbic (Emotional Brain) and the Neo Cortex ( Our logical thinking Brain) This behavior is activated in the Emotional Limbic System. Not our Logical thinking Brain, hence "There is no Logic to Emotion"  
 
Within our Limbic System there is a chemical manufacturing plant called the "Hypothalamus" this part of our brain assembles small Amino-Acid chain sequences called Peptides. Peptides are chemical formations which exactly match every Emotion we experience, love, anger, sadness, etc. It is very important to understand that Peptides are highly addictive to our cells. The cells have no preference over nice chemicals such as love, joy, bliss or bad chemicals associated with fear, abuse, trauma or pain. The cells in our body are totally unconditional. The cells never judge a Peptide as good or bad, the cells simply get addicted and hooked on the Peptides intensity.
 
 It is the largest rush of Peptides that get our cells attention. If the cells are not receiving their addiction of choice, a little of the Peptide is held back by the cell and secreted back into the blood stream. It then travels to our brain neurons which then send messages to our Frontal Lobe calling up images from the past (Emotional Memories), we start thinking the same thoughts in order to create more of the same Peptide that were connected to that Positive or Negative Emotion. The personality repeats the same behavior again and again never realizing it is a natural cycle of "Cellular Peptide addiction. This is why these Emotions cannot be addressed Logically. The personality is addicted to a behavior pattern and the Peptides associated with the Emotion. As a Heroin or Cocaine addicted to their drug of choice and the high that it produces in the Brain, so is the Relationship Addict addicted to the release of addicting Peptides and the behavior it produces. In the next article I will go over the phases of love and the chemicals that are released in association with love and how the Brain responds to those chemicals. 
 
References;
 
 Attachment in adults by; Wikipedia
 
How the Brain works by; Graig Freudenrich, Ph.D
 
The Brain in Love and Lust by; Scientific American
 
DSM 4 TR
 
Narcissist Abuse by; Melinie Tonya Evens, Ph.D
 
Addicted to love by; Jennifer Gibson, Pharm.D
 
What Every Body is Saying by; Joe Navarro, M.A. 
 
 
 
 
 
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Anthony J. Iantosca, BCFE
IAFEI

Foot Fetish
Sexual Capabilities
Forensic Profiling
 
Is there such a thing as a Foot Fetish? Well the answer is no on one hand and yes on the other. People who state that this personality has a Foot Fetish are using an improper term. The word Fetish and it's true meaning is  Latin for  the word "Facticius"  artificial or man made. A true Fetish is a personality who has a sexual attraction for a non living object. Such as Shoes, Panties, Nylons, Teddy Bears so on and so fourth. A foot is a living object so the correct term would be a Paraphilia.
The word Paraphilia means "Para"  the Greek word for above or beyond and " Philia"  meaning friendship or love.  
How does one acquire a Paraphilia or a Fetish? It is a mental association made in the mind, the same association that Pavlov discovered with his dogs.
 Pavlov would ring a bell and feed his dogs. He kept doing this exercise for weeks. Then one day Pavlov rang the bell and did not feed his dogs, what he discovered was his dogs came running to him salivating thinking they would be feed. As time went on he realized when he rang the bell the dogs would continue  running to him regardless of whether Pavlov fed the dogs or not. The dogs made a mental association in their minds with the sound of a bell and food. The same phenomena happens to humans when they, in a sense ring their own bell. Before the inception of the internet where today anyone can go and watch pornography of their choice, people got turned on by watching the old exercise TV shows. Watching lovely women exercising in their shin tight spandex exercise cloths, so today we have a generation of men turned on by spandex. As time went on the Victoria Secrets catalogs became the rage. That "turn on" became a mental association made in their minds. The more the personality fantasized and masturbated to that "turn on" the more he/she became turned on by the association.  Today we have a group of people who want their partner to dress up in some form of that same attire. Why?  Simply because it turns them on. The association was made.
Does that mean the personality is sick or a deviant of some type? No, it does not mean that what so ever. What two consenting adults do behind closed doors is no ones business. The key word is "consenting"  Problems would arise if this behavior is being forced on an unwilling partner or if this behavior is causing the personality;
 
  1) Stress
  2) An impairment if social functioning family, work, etc. 
  3) The behavior is against the law of the society of which he/she is a part.  
 
 For instance in some Countries marrying girls at a very young age is acceptable to that society. In the United States and most other Countries around the world it would be against the law.
   
 Will Handwriting Analysis detect if a personality has a Fetish, etc. and if so what kind?  No, Handwriting Analysis will not detect if a personality has a particular Fetish, nor can we detect if the personality is Straight, Gay, or what  he/she may be into sexually. Handwriting Analysis will give the Examiner a clear indication of the intensity of a personalities Sexual Capabilities on a scale of one - ten. The "Intensity"  Pressure Factor ( P1/P2 being the lightest point of measurement /Intensity) ( P6 being the most intense/extreme point of measurement) of the personality combined with the traits we have Detected, Identified and Analyzed will give us a accurate picture of the personalities sexual wants, needs and desires. In any Assessment we would need Handwriting from both parties yours and your partner's or new love interest. This will give you a clear indication if you are sexually compatible or not. Handwriting Analysis will indicate how Sexually Intense the personality is, it will not tell us what the personality may be into Sexually.  
 A Threat Assessment Profile will give you, the client, a read on the writer or person in question. It is a very accurate diagnostic tool which will help you to understand how the writer, person in question will act under controlled or uncontrolled circumstances. A Threat Assessment Profile will help to answer this question, "What is the best I can hope for"  and  "What is the worst I could expect"  from this personality, when emotion comes into play and their logic is reduced and an emotional explosion is inevitable. Is he/she Violent, Aggressive and have dangerous Sexual Capabilities? Is the writer Jealous, Domineering, Temper prone or Vindictive?
What a personality projects and what a personality is in reality,  are two entirely different matters.
When people are in love they have a tendency to "Rationalize" Also called "Thinking errors"  Their partners or new love interest's behavior. In Handwriting Analysis "Rationalization" "Thinking Errors" Is a trait I would Detect and Identify in a sample of Handwriting as "Self Deceit"  There are times when that "Rationalization" could cost you, your life.
 
Special interest Article;
Anthony J. Iantosca, BCFE
IAFEI

Statement Analysis

Did Obama lie when he stated the day before yesterday in an interview, "He never stated he did not draw a red line on Syria"?
Lets look at the facts. Did he lie? No, Obama did not lie.

He stated "We would draw a red line if Syria used chemical weapons" Obama is an Attorney and a Politician he is smart enough to use language that is "Passive and Equivocal" So he can wiggle out of that statement, if that statement comes back at him at a later date, and he is backed into corner.

The use of the word "We" is used when someone wants to pass responsibility around and not take personal responsibility for an action or statement. If at a later date that action or statement was a mistake and the person is now being criticized or ridiculed because of their decision, they can state I did not say or do that.
The problem is when he made the original statement and used the word "We" he should have been asked Mr. President who is "We" He should have been asked by the interviewer to clarify his statement.
Now he can change the meaning of his original statement by stating "He was speaking for the world by using the word we" He does not speak for the world, he is the leader of the United States, not the world.
You can use the word "We" when you are speaking for a group of people and you are their spokesperson.
Then word "We" would be acceptable. When Obama was making that original statement he was speaking for himself. Yes I can state that he was making that statement on behalf of all the American people, the only problem I have is he did not ask one American what their opinion was, before he made the statement.

When a confident person or leader who has honor and character makes a mistake he /she will state "I made a mistake" I should have done things better" I was at fault" "This is my fault" "I was wrong" They are taking personal responsibility for their words or actions. When people do not want to take personal responsibility and do not want to out right lie, you will always hear what is called "Actions without Agency" or "Passive language" , Such as, "We could have done things better" "We made mistakes" or even better you will hear " Mistakes were made" "Things happened" "The situation spiraled out of control" The language Ms. Clinton used when she was explaining her decisions and actions on Benghazi Libya.
Special interest Article;
Anthony J. Iantosca, BCFE
IAFEI

Statement Analysis

Did Obama lie when he stated the day before yesterday in an interview, "He never stated he did not draw a red line on Syria"?
Lets look at the facts. Did he lie? No, Obama did not lie.

He stated "We would draw a red line if Syria used chemical weapons" Obama is an Attorney and a Politician he is smart enough to use language that is "Passive and Equivocal" So he can wiggle out of that statement, if that statement comes back at him at a later date, and he is backed into corner.

The use of the word "We" is used when someone wants to pass responsibility around and not take personal responsibility for an action or statement. If at a later date that action or statement was a mistake and the person is now being criticized or ridiculed because of their decision, they can state I did not say or do that.
The problem is when he made the original statement and used the word "We" he should have been asked Mr. President who is "We" He should have been asked by the interviewer to clarify his statement.
Now he can change the meaning of his original statement by stating "He was speaking for the world by using the word we" He does not speak for the world, he is the leader of the United States, not the world.
You can use the word "We" when you are speaking for a group of people and you are their spokesperson.
Then word "We" would be acceptable. When Obama was making that original statement he was speaking for himself. Yes I can state that he was making that statement on behalf of all the American people, the only problem I have is he did not ask one American what their opinion was, before he made the statement.

When a confident person or leader who has honor and character makes a mistake he /she will state "I made a mistake" I should have done things better" I was at fault" "This is my fault" "I was wrong" They are taking personal responsibility for their words or actions. When people do not want to take personal responsibility and do not want to out right lie, you will always hear what is called "Actions without Agency" or "Passive language" , Such as, "We could have done things better" "We made mistakes" or even better you will hear " Mistakes were made" "Things happened" "The situation spiraled out of control" The language Ms. Clinton used when she was explaining her decisions and actions on Benghazi Libya.
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