The Holidays are crazy enough without having to deal with a relationship that is at its evident end. Any breakup can be a blow to confidence and self-esteem, but it can be even more painful when one is facing this very special time of year with fears of being alone. Although you may be angry and upset, remember, keeping a positive attitude and, better yet, having a sparkling season is your best revenge. Instead of hiding in your room wallowing in self-pity, realize that a new year is akin to a clean slate. Start off on the right foot and with momentum by doing something wonderful for yourself. Gals, buy a new party dress, get a mani/pedi or indulge in a spa treatment. Guys, get a full-on grooming at the barber's, buy a sharp shirt for holiday functions or get a massage. The person that you must love and care for most is you - don't forget that. While your ex is either miserable or wasting his or her time thinking that YOU are miserable, you will be out there. GO to EVERY party or event that you have been invited to. If your dance card isn't crowded, HOST a party and MINGLE or grab a BFF or a lesser-known pal and go out on the town. Why should you hold back? You shouldn't. Start out the new year with a bang! Besides, you never know who you will meet - but you have to put yourself OUT THERE to do it! Happy Holidays!