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Hot is having or causing a sensation of great bodily heat; attended with or producing such a sensation. [Dictionary.com Unabridged (v 1.1)]; hots, Slang. intense sexual desire or attraction.

 

“WOW! She’s HOT!”  A young sixteen-year-old boy whispered to his father one summer afternoon. The lady he was pertaining to was a forty-year-old tanned-skinned muscled woman dressed in her purple sporty tank top and black tights filling her shopping cart with healthy groceries. The young teenager secretly felt a sudden urge that turned into a sudden heat within him that caused him to flush when his father looked at him and then looked at the lady.

 

To this boy, he got aroused by muscled women.  Each person has his/her own preferred thrills.  Some men like heavy women.  Some women like skinny men.  And usually, people keep these thrills a secret.  They do not want these to be let known.  But to a very few, they like to expose and share what they want; and possibly, what they ‘need’.

 

These desires are ‘wants’ that turn into ‘needs’, something one cannot live without.  People may find these in their own spouses and some may find these outside their family. These desires turn into ‘fantasies’ when people can’t get them within reach because these ‘fantasies’ are not simply the norm.  They may not be accepted as a normal practice of a normal person.  They may even be considered, ‘sick’.  Thus, these desires eventually turn into ‘fantasies’ because they can’t do them in public or talk about them in public.  They can only talk about these with people who have equivalent or similar desires and can only be spoken of in private.

 

What is a legitimate ‘hot’ accepted in a decent community?  It could be a well-groomed man who dresses well, has good posture and dignified or it could be a woman who does not do a body language that insinuates and/or invites flirtation and who is articulate in her educated speech.  Acceptance is the keyword in all aspects when it comes to a ‘norm’. 

 

But this does not mean that a practice has to be accepted by the general public.  Time changes.  People change.  Ideas change.  Technology changes.  Without these ‘unusual’ practices that used to be ‘not’ accepted may become accepted in the future, if proven that it is geared toward the advantages and for the good.  But sometimes, practices become ‘popular,’ too even if they are not considered ‘good’ and ‘right’ to mankind.  And that they what they call, ‘kicked in’ because of the mere fact that these particular practices are unique and rare (something everyone wants); and possibly, provide monetary growth (a positive aspect) to the ones concerned and involved.  But of course, it will be become obvious that since these originally were not ‘good’ and ‘right,’ the ‘good’ and the ‘right’ evidently become the ‘bad’ and the ‘evil,’ too, just like those products of these activities.

 

What now is ‘hot’? … the ‘good’ and the ‘right’?  … or the ‘bad’ and the ‘evil’?  It is up to mankind to form his, own realistic future.  One creates his/her own life.  It is up to him/her to adhere to his/her surroundings or not.  God bless us all!

 And, speaking of bodybuilding -- to competitive professional bodybuilders, there is a ‘normal’ understanding in the bodybuilding world that it is impossible to reach a competitive physique without the use of drugs like steroids, growth hormones, insulin and the like.  Since the top contenders are users, it is but fair for the new aspiring athletes to do the same. But are those muscles developed ‘normal’?  Or shall we change that term ‘normal’ to ‘natural’?

 

Let us now define, ‘natural’.  According to Dictionary.com Unabridged (v 1.1), ‘normal’ is:

1.

existing in or formed by nature.

 

2.

based on the state of things in nature; constituted by nature: Growth is a natural process.

 

3.

of or pertaining to nature or the universe: natural beauty.

 

4.

of, pertaining to, or occupied with the study of natural science: conducting natural experiments.

 

5.

in a state of nature; uncultivated, as land.

 

6.

growing spontaneously, without being planted or tended by human hand, as vegetation.

 

7.

having undergone little or no processing and containing no chemical additives: natural food; natural ingredients.

 

8.

having a real or physical existence, as opposed to one that is spiritual, intellectual, fictitious, etc.

 

9.

of, pertaining to, or proper to the nature or essential constitution: natural ability.

 

10.

proper to the circumstances of the case: a natural result of his greed.

 

 

 

Bodybuilding contests/competitions announce dope testing being done. If tested positive, are the titles, medals and trophies won removed?  Is there an all-natural bodybuilding competition in this era?  ‘All-natural’ meaning, not even once, did the athletes take any of those drugs in his/her entire life in the world of bodybuilding? 

 

The human body is made to have muscles; more pronounced in men and lesser in women.  And if these muscles exceed the ‘normal’ size, that is ‘not normal’.  What is considered, ‘normal’ in this aspect?  A normal muscle growth could be easily be differentiated from a muscle that grew from using chemicals.  Muscles that grew out of physical activities and eating the right foods for muscle growth like protein are not up and hard when relaxed.  Muscles that never relax even when the person is in a relaxed state, those muscles were artificially developed. That is one way of finding out if muscles were normally developed or not.  Athletes who take those drugs also experience a lot of side effects like temper, lumps here and there, changes in genitals, liver and heart problems, sexual problems, gender characteristics changes and more.

 

Muscle building drugs are harmful to the health of a person.  They are fatal, too.  Why do athletes still take these?  They like to look good, for one.  Looking good is the main reason for bodybuilding.  Don’t you think so?  Of course.  But it is how one builds one’s muscles, is what this self-satisfying and maybe even ‘egoistic’ goal is all about.  Bodybuilding changes a person’s life and lifestyle; may be for the better and later on, for the worse when the after effects start showing.  

 

But to a very few, bodybuilding is therapeutic.  It is for health reasons due to some illnesses that need muscles to survive the illness.  Isn’t bodybuilding supposed to be therapeutic in the first place?  Whatever happened to why bodybuilding was started? 

Now, speaking of relationships -- relationships have a very wide variety of topics that could be covered. All those who are part of a particular ‘relationship’ have each their own version of their side of the story and their own debating argument on what is the ‘acceptable’ practice of a ‘true’ and ‘normal’ relationship. 

Let us now define, ‘relationship’.  According to the American Heritage Dictionary found in Dictionary.com, ‘relationship’ has four meanings namely:

  1. The condition or fact of being related; connection or association.
  2. Connection by blood or marriage; kinship.
  3. A particular type of connection existing between people related to or having dealings with each other: has a close relationship with his siblings.
  4. A romantic or sexual involvement.

What is considered a ‘normal relationship’ then?   And what is a ‘successful relationship’?

In a relationship, it is but normal to encounter disagreements, dislikes, disbeliefs, and all the ‘dis’s’ one can think of one can one day discover in one’s partner’s ways and character.  It is the question whether each one will accept the other ‘no matter what’ they discover that they didn’t like and if each ‘can live with it’.

A ‘successful relationship’ is when the ‘no matter what’ and ‘can live with it’ kind of attitude sticks infinitely.  Below are some of the points to take note of to keep a relationship going:

-  However one wants to be treated by the other, treat the other equivalently.  A relationship is reciprocation; a mutual giving and receiving.

-  Every one has needs.  A relationship is where each one helps the other reach the goal of satisfying the other’s needs.

-  Every second that passes in a human being’s life, he/she grows older.  And growth in age coincides with growth in knowledge and experience.  In a relationship, today is better than yesterday; tomorrow is better than today.  A relationship is a learning process and a learning center where one grows not only in age but in know-how on all aspects of life.  One learns from the other, too.

-  Never complain, criticize, curse, and say bad things about and to your partner.

-  No one is the same.  That is the spice of life.  If everyone is the same, life is not interesting.  It is how you react on what is not acceptable to your principles and beliefs. Take responsibility on your actions.  Make sure that what you do won’t inflict pain to your partner physically and emotionally.  Accept your partner as who he/she is but if there should be some changes for him/her to improve for the better, do it in a very positive way.

            First, we define ‘normal’.  According to WordNet found in Dictionary.com, ‘normal’ is conforming with or constituting a norm or standard or level or type or social norm; not abnormal; American Heritage Dictionary found in Dictionary.com, ‘normal’ is conforming with, adhering to, or constituting a norm, standard, pattern, level, or type; typical; American Heritage Stedman's Medical Dictionary found in Dictionary.com, ‘normal’ is being approximately average or within certain limits in e.g. intelligence and development; Kernerman English Multilingual Dictionary (Beta Version) found in Dictionary.com, ‘normal’ is usual; without any special characteristics or circumstances.

 

Speaking of children below age five years old, development of each and every child is different. So, which child is considered going through a normal development and which is not and considered an ‘abnormal’ child?  Does it necessarily mean that when a child is not going through the average rate of development of a child, that child is considered abnormal and should be treated as abnormal; there as, should be given a special treatment or special therapy to speed up the child’s development? 

 

If a child is normal in all medical tests like hearing, vision, movement and everything else are normal except the development of speech, does not mean that the child is mute and needs ‘special’ help? Some children do develop speech late.    

 

Below is an article by Thomas Sowell about “Late-Talking Children”:

 

LATE-TALKING CHILDREN
by Thomas Sowell

    Perhaps the best way to begin this discussion of children who talk years later than the norm is the way I began my book Late-Talking Children, by asking: With all the medical and scientific writings available on children who talk late, why should there be a book written on the subject by someone with no pretensions to either medical or scientific expertise?  A related question is: Why should anyone read it-- especially those who do have medical and scientific expertise?
    This book contains new information about a certain category of late-talking children that, frankly, I stumbled upon willy-nilly by studying a group that I never intended to form in the first place.  Let me begin at the beginning.  In May 1993, I wrote a newspaper column about my son when he graduated from college with a degree in computer science.  In this column I mentioned that he was almost four years old before he began to talk and also that he showed early signs of a remarkable memory and later signs of great ability in mathematics, computers, and other things requiring analytical thinking.  From around the country letters began to pour in from parents and grandparents of similar children-- similar not only in talking late but also in showing exceptional analytical abilities.  It later turned out that there were still more similarities between many of these children and my son.
    A few of these letters were from parents whose children were now grown and had turned out fine.  Most, however, were from parents still baffled, frustrated, and apprehensive about a child who seemed bright and healthy, but who just did not talk.  Many of these children were three, four, or even five years old.  Their parents wanted me to tell them why-- and what they needed to do in order to get these children to talk.  I had to write back and tell these parents that I could not do either of these things.  Nor could I simply tell them to consult medical or other experts because most had already consulted experts and the experts were as baffled as they were.  However, I did promise to survey the medical and scientific literature, and then write back to tell the parents what I had come up with.
    My thought was that my research assistant might spend a morning at the computer, searching various sources of information, and then, that afternoon, I would send out a list of books and articles she had found.  Nothing of the sort happened.  Long lists of books and articles on children's speech problems came out of the computer, but absolutely nothing on very intelligent children who talk late. A few titles here and there sounded promising but, after my assistant obtained copies of the articles or books and we read them, there was absolutely nothing there on the specific subject we were seeking.
    There was a large literature on late-talking children in general, and the many other serious and often enduring problems among such children.  Some children talked late because of hearing problems, mental retardation, autism, or other disabilities.  But I could not find a single article on late-talking children with high intelligence.  A couple of years later, Professor Steven Pinker of M.I.T.-- a leading authority on language development-- was kind enough to have the literature searched again for me and again there was no literature on the kind of children the parents were writing to me about.
    In the summer of 1993, however, whenever there was a break in the on-going work of the office, my assistant would try new sources and new search strategies but the end result was always the same: We could find nothing about intellectually outstanding children who talked late.  There were isolated individual stories about Albert Einstein and others, but no systematic research.  What was originally conceived of as a one-day effort stretched out into weeks and then into months.  Finally, in September 1993, four months after my column about my son, I sent out a form letter to the dozens of parents who had written me, saying that I had come up with nothing.  However, rather than leave them completely high and dry, I offered to let them to exchange addresses through me, in case they wanted to share experiences with one another, and especially to contact parents of late-talking children who were now grown.
    This too seemed like a small thing to do and a one-shot deal.  I had no idea what it would lead to, nor any expectation that it would lead to anything involving me.  But it turned out that I was very mistaken again.  Most of the parents accepted my offer to be put in touch with other parents of late-talking children, so an informal group of correspondents formed.
    The initial members of this group were about two dozen parents, scattered around the country.  They began to send long letters to each other, with copies to me, about their children's development and the problems they encountered at home, in nursery schools and in preschools.  A few phoned one another or me.  Many of their stories were quite moving.  However, after several months, I began to wonder if there was not some kind of pattern in these families and in these children.  In retrospect, I can see that it took me a very long time to notice.
    First of all, it seemed to me that the parents were generally above average in intelligence and that the families seemed to contain people concentrated in atypical occupations.  Pilots were the first I noticed.  There were only a few but still it seemed like a lot for such a small group.  Then there were the engineers, computer specialists, scientists, physicians, accountants, and-- heaven help us-- economists.  Moreover, the children themselves seemed like the kind of people who might grow up and go into such analytically-oriented occupations.  All this was still just impressionistic speculation.  Eventually, however, after several months, it finally occurred to me to send out a questionnaire to see if a survey of the group as a whole would validate these impressions.
    The first thing that struck me about the replies was that, in more than half the families, the child had a close relative who was an engineer.  This had a special impact on me because my brother is an engineer.  I immediately blamed him for my son's talking late.  Those children who did not have an engineer as a close relative almost always had a family member who was in some other occupation requiring high levels of analytical ability.  Three-quarters of the families had either an engineer, a mathematician, or a scientist among the child's close relatives and it was not uncommon for there to be more than one.  Nor were the remaining families lacking in people with analytical occupations.  Accountants were almost as numerous as engineers and there were also computer programmers, pilots, economists, and physicians.
    There was more.  In a large majority of the families, there was someone who played a musical instrument, in some cases multiple musicians and, in a substantial minority of the families, there was a professional musician.  This too tied in with my personal experience: My father played the piano, as did his sister, who also composed musical pieces.  The other striking thing about this group, which I had known before the survey, was that the great majority of the children were boys.  In fact, the first 30 children in the group were male before the parents of twin girls in Alabama joined.
    It seemed to me that this information was something that ought to be investigated further by someone with medical or scientific expertise-- and I set about trying to find someone like this who would be interested in my data and in other information in my files about these children and their families.  Despite following many leads and suggestions, I was completely unsuccessful in finding someone from such a background to take an interest in this group-- except for contacting Professor Pinker at M.I.T., who was very helpful not only in having the literature searched for me but also in having one of his students provide me with an annotated bibliography of writings related to speech development and brain development.  Finally, by 1996 I realized that if a book were going to be written on this subject, I would have to be the one to write it.
    By this time the group had grown to 55 families scattered across 24 states and most had joined after the 1994 survey. A new and larger questionnaire was prepared, based in part on things I had been reading and considering in the previous two years.  Forty-four of the 55 families in the group filled out the detailed questionnaire I sent them.  These 44 families represented 46 children because two of the families had two children who talked late.  The results of this 1996 survey, which are presented in the book, confirmed the patterns found in the earlier survey and brought out new information about both the children and their families.
    Most of the children in our group began talking around age four.
2  Most of the parents began to be seriously concerned about their not talking around age two3-- which means that there were usually two long years of anxiety, during which relatives, friends, teachers, day care providers, and others often added to the parents' apprehensions with dire opinions or even diagnoses of retardation or autism, for which they had neither the evidence nor the professional training to evaluate evidence.  Seldom were physicians the source of these worries but neither could physicians do more than counsel patience when medical examinations failed to turn up anything wrong. Meanwhile, the parents were often being told by others that they were "in denial" or that the parents had themselves caused the child's late talking by always anticipating their needs-- or other theories without foundation.
    While few of the children in our group had taken I.Q. tests, there were many other indicators of their mental ability.  Three quarters of them were rated in the top category-- "unusually good" -- at puzzles.
4  None had a memory rated as low as "average" and most rated in the top category-- "extremely good"-- with many parents putting exclamation points or other comments about the extraordinary memories of their children.  Nor can this be dismissed as parental over-optimism, for they rated nearly twice as many of their children as either "average" or "clumsy" in physical skills as those rated "above average."5
    While most of the children in our group were too young to have taken the Scholastic Aptitude Test, three of them had-- and all three scored above the 95th percentile on the mathematics portion.  There were also many anecdotal indicators of unusual intellectual ability among these children.  Most were considered remarkable for their ability with jigsaw puzzles, including some who could put together puzzles with a couple of hundred pieces when they were two or three years old.  One of the preschoolers helps his mother when she has trouble with Windows 95.
    Although I was unable to find anything in the medical or scientific literature on such children, I was able to find some suggestive facts in the literature on high-I.Q. individuals in general.  Although high-I.Q. people are usually healthier than members of the general population, nevertheless there are certain physical anomalies that are more common in those whose mental abilities are substantially above the norm.
    Allergies and other immune system disorders are much more common in people with unusual intellectual ability.  A survey at a meeting of Mensa, the international society for people with very high IQs, showed that 31 percent of those present reported "severe or multiple allergies."
6  A Johns Hopkins University study of intellectually precocious youngsters showed that four-fifths of them were either allergic, myopic, or left-handed-- or some combination.7  Other studies have likewise found left-handedness to be more common among mathematicians and childhood myopia several times as common among intellectually precocious children as in the general population.
    Why would a group of people so generally more healthy than average have much higher incidences of these particular afflictions?  Some of those who are familiar with brain research believe that a particular portion of the brain may develop to an unusual extent at the expense of other portions.
8  Since the immune system and the optical system are controlled from the brain, and the right hand from the left hemisphere, a higher incidence of allergies and other immune system disorders, and of childhood myopia, among people with very high IQs would be consistent with this belief.  So too would a higher incidence of left-handedness among mathematicians, if the analytical regions of the left hemisphere have taken over resources that would otherwise be available for the control of the right hand.  It is also known that speech is, for most people, also controlled from a particular region of the left hemisphere.  Could it, like right-handedness, also fall victim to a highly developed analytical sector of the brain?
    When Einstein's brain was autopsied, it was found to weigh no more than average, but a particular region of his left hemisphere was twice the normal size.  There is no way to know if that was why he was late in talking but perhaps people with expertise in this area might research the possibilities.  Incidentally, Einstein was not the only nuclear physicist to talk late.  So did Edward Teller and Richard Feynman.  Three known late-talkers were among those who created the first nuclear bomb.
    The overwhelmingly male sample of late-talking children in our group is also consistent with this explanation.  Recent research has shown that the brains of males and females differ in formulating speech, as well as in not having its functions as localized.
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    The main purpose of the book Late-Talking Children is not to promote these speculations, however.  It is to report certain facts about a particular set of late-talking children, who are undoubtedly a minority among late-talking children, and to hope that others with medical or scientific expertise will carry the research much further than I can.
    What parents of such children most need to know is that they are not alone.  There is a sense of utter isolation when you have never seen another child like yours and when no one can either explain what is happening or tell you what to do about it.  Yet these children are not unique, nor even as rare as they might first appear to be.  When my son was talking late, I was unaware of any other child like him-- and yet my college room mate had talked late, though I did not know that at the time.  My colleague Walter Williams talked late, though Walter himself did not know that until he mentioned my study to his mother and she informed him.  The man who works on my computer happened to overhear me talking with some parents in our group and told his mother about these unusual children-- whereupon she said to him: "Like you."  Since then, she has written me that his first words were: "Look at that school bus!" My college room mate-- now a professor of mathematics-- likewise began talking in complete sentences, though most of the late-talking children start first with a few simple words and then progress like other children, though years later.
    Anecdotal evidence obviously has its limitations.  But the large amount of it is quite surprising, in view of how few parents or their physicians are aware of other very bright, late-talking children.  Even though I have been a colleague of Edward Teller for 17 years at the Hoover Institution, and bought a house from him back in 1981, I was unaware that he talked late until this past April, when his assistant encountered my assistant at the Xerox machine and noticed that she was carrying a book jacket for Late-Talking Children.
    Within the past year, when I have mentioned the book I was writing at large gatherings, usually someone present would mention a child very much like those I was describing.  I learned of two such people during one week in New Zealand last fall.  Both are now grown.  One is a mathematician and the other an engineer. A few days after I learned that Dr. Teller had talked late, I encountered a professor of mathematics at Wabash College in Indiana who also talked late.  A month afterwards, I mentioned my project at a dinner given by people at Dartmouth and two of those present said that they had talked late.  Two weeks ago, I was being interviewed on a call-in program on a Wisconsin radio station.  In the space of one hour, four mothers of late-talking boys phoned in.  All four were from families with engineers.  A woman who had talked late also phoned in-- and mentioned that she came from a family with a similar background.  Within the past two weeks, my wife has mentioned to people that she worked with that she was going to be away, accompanying me on a book tour for Late-Talking Children.  Two more examples of such children were volunteered.  One is now in medical school and the other plays in a symphony orchestra.  One of the two publishers to whom I mentioned this book last year said that he had talked late-- and that he had been a professional violinist before he went into publishing.
    If all of this sounds upbeat, two things must be kept in mind. First, the late-talking children in our group is a biased sample because people wrote me in response to a newspaper column in which I revealed other aspects of my son besides his late-talking, so that I attracted parents whose children shared these other characteristics as well. Later, when I wrote columns about similar children in our group, the same selection bias was at work.  It would be cruel to offer false hopes to parents whose children are deaf, retarded, autistic, or who suffer from other disabilities.  Much research indicates that late-talking children in general often have other serious and lasting problems.  Some of that research, however, distinguishes between children who simply talk late, but who clearly understand what is being said to them and have no other known medical problem.  These children have been found to turn out well in future years, in contrast to children who neither speak nor understand what is being said to them, who often have a much more grim future ahead of them.  This book, however, is the first to study children with above average intelligence and who talk years late.  I certainly hope that it will not be the last.
    The other thing that must be kept in mind is that most parents of late-talking children are unaware of what has been discovered in our group and are going through the same sense of utter isolation that most of the parents in our group experienced.  Moreover, there is no way for them to know whether their own child is like those in our group or those for whom the future is far less bright.  For these parents, a medical examination of the child should be the highest priority-- and most parents will seek such examinations.
    Unfortunately, there are all sorts of non-medical people volunteering opinions and labels for these children.  When relatives and friends do this, it is bad enough for an already burdened parent, but when school systems put labels like "retarded" or "autistic" on a child, the consequences can be not only devastating to the parents but long-lasting in its effects on the child, who is likely to be shunted off into programs that lead nowhere-- and from which he is unlikely to emerge.
    Schools get substantially more money for children who are labeled abnormal in ways for which there are programs.  Although many school systems offer free evaluations, this can be the most costly free thing these parents ever receive, for it can change the course of their child's life in ways that may be virtually impossible to undo.  A medical examination-- or preferably two independent medical examinations, given the seriousness of what is involved-- will undoubtedly cost, but it will cost much less than the alternative.
    As just one example of what labels can do, let me mention a little boy in our group named Billy.  Born in 1990, his early development was on schedule or a little ahead of schedule on everything except talking.  He could use a videotape cassette recorder and a computer before he was three, but he was not yet talking until he was three.  By that time, a psychologist had labeled him was having "pervasive development disorder," even though the only thing behind schedule was his talking.  It jolted Billy's parents, who knew that PDD meant autism.
    Other professionals reached different conclusions about him but the autism label stuck.  Mixed signals from these professionals were matched by mixed signals from relatives.  Told that they were "in denial," Billy's parents joined a support group of parents of autistic children.  Here again, there were mixed signals.  One of the parents in the group pulled Billy's parents aside to say that she could not see a single sign of autism in Billy.
    Fortunately, Billy's preschool teacher came to observe him in a session with autistic children.  She went ballistic, shouting:"TAKE HIM OUT OF HERE! THEY ARE GOING TO UNDO ALL OF THE PROGRESS WE HAVE MADE WITH HIM! THIS IS NOT BILLY!" Now the mother became convinced that Billy was not autistic-- and was angry that the therapists were so blindly following the psychologist's label, rather than what they were seeing in front of their own eyes.  Finally, a well-known specialist on autism declared that Billy was not autistic.  Even then, however, the label continued to haunt him.
    Billy began to keep one eye closed and the other eye open-- sometimes the left and sometimes the right, but he avoided having them both open at the same time.  When his mother phoned his pediatrician about this, seeking a referral to an ophthalmologist, the pediatrician was reluctant to give a referral, apparently thinking that this was just weird behavior from a child already carrying the autistic label.
    Only when Billy's mother exploded in anger did the pediatrician refer her to a pediatric ophthalmologist who had "worked with kids like Billy."  What the ophthalmologist discovered was that Billy had double vision-- and that he would have gone blind in one eye if it had not been caught in time.  Fortunately, it was readily corrected with glasses and Billy general behavior improved dramatically, once he could see normally.  Apparently this is a common reaction.
    This ophthalmologist had indeed treated autistic children-- and he assured Billy's mother that Billy was not one of them.  The boy's progress has continued and he began to take piano lessons before he was six years old.  His mother says that he likes to "show off by playing songs with his eyes closed, to impress the teacher."  Although this story seems to have had a happy ending, it is also a sobering reminder of the dangers of hasty labels.
    Another mother in our group, whose boy who was still not talking on his fourth birthday, and who had also been late in walking, and who drooled, told of friends and relatives who warned her that someday she might have to have him "put away."  However, he is now grown and has an I.Q. in the top one percent.
    There are of course no guarantees, even for the children in our unusual group, much less for late-talking children in general.  But parents whose children's medical examinations have given them a clean bill of health should at least know that there is often light at the end of the tunnel-- sometimes very bright light.

N O T E S

1.        © Thomas Sowell.

2.        Thomas Sowell, Late-Talking Children (New York: Basic Books, 1997), pp. 78-80, 166.

3.        Ibid., pp. 80-81, 163.

4.        Ibid., pp. 84, 167.

5.        Ibid., p. 164.

6.        Miles G. Storfer, Intelligence and Giftedness: The Contribution of Heredity and Early Environment (San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 1990), pp. 386, 389.

7.        Ibid., p. 385.

8.        Miles G. Storfer, Intelligence and Giftedness: The Contribution of Heredity and Early Environment (San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 1990), pp. 391-393.

9.        Christine Gorman, "How Gender May Bend Your Thinking," Time, July 17, 1996, p. 51; Bennett A. Shaywitz, et al, "Sex Differences in the Functional Organization of the Brain for Language," Nature, 16 February 1995, pp. 607-609.

As they say, I'm "The One of a Kind."  A lot of things interests me, which was the main reason for my various experiences in various fields.

I lift weights for my health purposes. I prioritized child rearing above anything else in the world. I believe in God. I also believe in ghosts. I have a degree in Bachelor of Sciences in Business Administration and am experienced in secretarial, bookkeeping, some auditing and accounting jobs.  I had indulged and have been indulging myself in a few small business endeavors.  I started working for my father when I was twelve years old.  I am turning forty-six years old this coming December 8th, 2007.  Yes, I know.  I look young.  Most Asians look young for their real age.  That also goes with the African Americans. 

I can talk about almost a lot of things.  I look young and innocent.  But no one should judge the book by its cover.  I'm not saying I'm a devil.  I'm just saying that people almost always think at first impression that I'm very young to know much yet to be able to discuss much about any thing yet.

I had written two books that I had self-published on July 2005.  One novel, "Selina Mae Steele" is about a fictitious biography of a fictitious female bodybuilder. This book is based on true-to-life facts about undisclosed inside stories in bodybuilding. It also covers relationships, traditional Asian family life and many more. The other novel, "Grass IS Green ... But Beyond Reach."  is an inspirational short novel about a young girl who believed.  This girl has an incurable illness that she had to cope up with in her entire life.

My hobby is making friends.  Making friends interests me a lot because this is one good way of learning.  It is a form of education.  It is a way of discovering new things.  I like helping people as well.  That's why I'm here.