I have worked as a State Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist/Psychotherapist for 14 yrs and often encounter people with Fear of Intimacy issues. Once people discover the root of this it really makes sense why they have this issue. Although one's history plays a role, I have found that discovering a person's unconscious conflict or pathogenic belief is the initial key to solving this problem.

The first step to healing is discovering the negative inner voices in our heads (which effect intimacy.) The second step is learning about the self-protective patterns of defending ourselves from various "dangers." The third step is becoming more aware of how Emotional Intimacy and Sexual Intimacy often are parallel processes. This last step of linking of these two worlds is the final key to healing Fear of Intimacy.

It is very hard to do this work alone or with a self-help book because the majority of the problem is unconscious. For this kind of work you need a trained professional. What are the fantasies we have about ourselves and about others we try to be close to?

It takes time, commitment, money, and hard work whether you choose a short-term or long-term path to work through these kinds of issues. Some people have one Fear of Intimacy issue and little trauma in their lives, and some people have 4-6 issues and a lot of trauma in their life. Trauma can be from abuse or neglect.

You should be confident though that it is possible to give up our illusions about connection and closeness. I have seen it over and over again. People I work with are changing their destructive thinking patterns and learning how to give and receive love more fully. If this is what you want CALL FOR A CONSULTATION NOW!!