I have worked as a State Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist/Psychotherapist for 14 yrs and often encounter people with Fear of Intimacy issues and/or Blocked Creativity or Desire. Once people discover the root of this it really makes sense why they have this issue. Although one's history plays a role, I have found that discovering a person's unconscious conflict or pathogenic belief is the initial key to solving this problem.

The first part of the path to healing is discovering the negative inner voices in our heads (which effect intimacy). The second part of the path is to learn how these voices have become part of self-protective patterns of defending ourselves from various "dangers". The third part of the path is to increase awareness of how Emotional Intimacy and Sexual Intimacy are parallel processes. This last step of linking these two worlds is the final key to healing Fear of Intimacy.

Blocked Creativity or Desire can often be related issues or separate issues that we can work on through dreams and linking. This refers to linking of past and present, inner and outer, thoughts and feelings, waking and dreaming states, birth and death, beginnings and endings. The process of linking these self-states with an empathic therapist in a safe, confidential, non-judgmental atmosphere is part of the healing/discovery process.

It is very hard to do this work alone or with a self-help book because the majority of the problem is unconscious. For this kind of work you need a trained professional. What are the fantasies we have about ourselves and about others we try to be close to?

It takes time, commitment, money, and hard work whether you choose a short-term or long-term path to work through these kinds of issues. Some people have one Fear of Intimacy issue and little trauma in their lives, and some people have 4-6 issues and a lot of trauma in their life. Trauma can result from abuse or neglect. It can be conscious or unconscious or both.

You should be confident though that it is possible to give up our illusions about connection and closeness. I have seen it over and over again. People I work with are changing their destructive thinking patterns and learning how to give and receive love more fully. If this is what you want CALL FOR A CONSULTATION NOW!