RELATIONSHIPS & MORE FROM INGENIOS TOP LIFE COACH

Are you wondering what is going wrong in your relationships? Have you started off great and then it "fizzles" out? Can't seem to find that special someone? Tired of the games people play?
I receive many calls from those in Management as well as CEO's of companies sharing concerns over employee/employer relationships. I have also heard many stories of "bullies" in the work place and the fear of those being bullied. The on going problem and advice I give.....YOU MUST LEARN HOW TO DOCUMENT! Now this may seem like a easy task...it is not! You need the correct training to prove your case and win. My callers have sent me emails with messages they have received in the work place and yet they were unsure how to respond. If you don't respond correctly you could be unemployed. Documentation needs to begin as soon as you see a problem. Keeping copies of notes, emails, etc. is a must for both employee and those in management. If you are having trouble with an employee or an employer....give me a call and lets begin to document. Blessings Diane National Consultant ext. 0127
I spent much time over the holiday season working with relationship issues among other things. I had several people share with me ,what they were giving there partner for Christmas. Come to find, they did not get much in return. This did not surprise me as I knew they were involved with a "taker". Givers seem to attract takers. Not to say they are greedy, or gold diggers, a taker is just not considerate of other people. They may not return a phone call, text message or call just to say "hello" unless they gain something from it. If you arrive at there house, they may not offer you something to drink. Although, if you ask for something they have no problem giving, but you have to ask.....these are the takers. The thought of sharing or consideration for others, just don't enter a takers mind. They will take from you on every level you are willing to give, they also are great at taking your time. When a taker needs you they expect you to be available. When you need something, they are often too busy at the moment. they have many excuses why they can not make time for you. A taker is not considerate of your feelings or needs, life seems to be all about them. This is not the case with a giver. A giver often will try to be available for you. When you enter a givers home, not only are you offered a drink but a meal if you are hungry......you get my point! If you are dating a "taker" be prepared for a selfish relationship. Set limits and do not give too much. Be ready to ask for what you need and stress consideration. If this don't help.......it may be time to move on.
Don't let it go just yet. I have been a relationship healer for many years and have worked with people from all over the globe. I do not believe in letting go of the one you love until you have done everything you can to bring healing to your relationship. Yes...you do have the power to heal your relationship, if you know the correct way of using your power. You must remember, He/She was in love with you once, you were the person they chosen. So what went wrong? Most relationships seem to fail over the "little things" not the major ones that most people believe. I hear things such as; He never listens to me, She won't stop nagging me, Why can't he just call/text if he's going to be late, Why do I need to tell her everything I am doing, and the list goes on. You can fill in the blank with your own issues________. Of course these things are not so "little" when they cause so much anger,grief and pain. But they slowly cause our emotions to change. Our love for each other begins to become less important then the issues we face as a couple. We focus more on the problems and negatives then we do on all the blessings and positives. Remember, The grass is not always greener on the other side. Begin to focus on the positive. Can you both work on repairing the negative? Talk it out and don't give up, some things just take work and time. I am here to help if you need me.

Have you ever dated someone and right from the start you knew "This Is The One"?

You had a connection like you never felt with anyone else.

You enjoyed the same entertainment, music, traveling, and even food. Not only dining out, but you enjoyed cooking together and dining at home.

 You had so much in common, not to mention the passion..... it was like fireworks. You were for sure, you were "SOUL MATES".

Then it seemed to take a turn and things died down. You could not imagine... what went wrong. You tried your best to fix it, but nothing seemed to work. You tried to communicate, but it did not help.

The passion was over and this great connection was gone.

Once again, another relationship failed. Once again, you are left wondering why? Where did it go wrong?

If this sounds like you, then it is time to seek an outside opinion. You may not need counseling, but you may need someone who can be objective and honest with you. Someone with training, knowledge, and experience in the field of relationships.

Maybe just a closer look at relationships in general to gain a better understanding of what you are looking for in a partner, and how to read the "RED FLAGS" when they pop up.

My callers, not only receive someone who can listen, but they also receive a new education into the world of dating, marriage and relationships.

The study of "Human Behavior" is a specialty field and I am the one who can teach you.

Send me an email for free minutes and lets get started.

Don't let another relationship fail!

Blessings

Diane National Consultant

Today we are  hearing of many companies closing down, laying off, and eliminating various positions inside the company.

We have many people who have been gainfully employed for years, now on the unemployment lines. So many families struggling to pay the morgage, some losing homes, cars, etc. and have very little in savings.

People say "Well, I searched on the internet, filled out many applications and sent in my resume, but nothing yet.  I am still without work. What else can I do?"

You can do more!

 Let me give you a few tips I have learned over the years while helping people find employment.

First,consider where you would like to work and call the HR Director. Be polite and state "Hello Mr/Mrs ? my name is ___________. I understand you may have a position available in your__________(book keeping, filing, IT, etc. dept.) can you please tell me if this is ture?

Often times, they may say "No, but we are looking for someone in our________dept." This will give you some insight to where they are hiring in house, which may not have reached the public yet. If interrestd apply, if not, ask if they would mind you calling from time to time to check on upcoming positions. Some HR Directors won't mind a call now and then, others will direct you elsewhere.......it's worth a shot!

Remember.....they could be planning on letting someone go, or an employee is soon retiring. They will be searching for a replacement and you just may be the perfect fit.

Depending on the position you are searching for, you may need to be a bit more creative. I can help you come up with a plan for your type of work.

Send me an email and I can send some free minutes to help you. Just don't give up.

Blessings

Diane

 

Today, I was reading on the net about a son who was beaten to death in the name of religion by his own parents and church members. It was very upsetting. It's easy to say "these parents are crazy" but often times this is not the case. It is a religious cult at work, and some don't see it as such.....until it's too late.

As a top advisor here on Ingenio, I have received many questions about God, Religion and cult activity. Most people are not even aware that some churchs or religions are not true followers of the bible as they confess, but many times are practicing cult activities under the falsehood of christianity. These activities are not Christian or biblical by any means but are taken from the bible and twisted to serve man not God. We have seen a great deal of this on TV, but there is a whole lot more that is never seen or heard about in some churchs.

As a bible believing Christian, I offer help in these areas.  If you are wondering about a certain scripture, have questions about a teaching in your church, or your wondering about a friend or family member involved in cult activities, I am here to help and I do not judge.

Send me a email and I will respond.

Many Blessings

Diane

 

Most often, people call my line with concerns over a relationship. It can be a family member, friend or a spouse or lover, but they need help with a relationship problem and more then help ....they need the TRUTH.

It is hard to find the truth. As we all know, friends and family may not want to tell you what they think so not to hurt your feelings. Even some Counselors and Advisors may not be fully honest with you, they also don't want to hurt your feelings or even more so, lose a customer. We even see this at times here on Ingenio.

I myself have seen relationships that were strong and positive fail due to a mistake or poor advice a person received. This is so hurtful and easily avoidable if the person was able to gain the truth. Of course, some people choose to remain in denile, those are the people who do not like hearing the truth. These people make the same mistakes over and over again.

But for most of us, we seek the truth and try our best to save or heal our relationship issues.

If a person is having trouble with relationships, they must be willing to hear the truth and correct the problem at hand.  If this is you, send me an email for free minutes and lets get started on healing your relationship.

 

 

 

 

I have been a top advisor here on Ingenio for many years.

 During this time and much more recently, callers have been telling me how they believe a partner has various mental health disorders (bipolar, narcissism, etc.) due to being informed of such by others.

Many callers believe that this is the reason for discord in the relationship or why it may have ended. Believing this falsehood may help a caller to justify a broken heart, but it is not the truth.

No matter how detailed you are when sharing your relationship issues, a true diagnosis can not be given to you concerning a partner by any advisor. Much work, and at times testing needs to be completed prior to a diagnosis, like with any illness. No one can diagnose a condition if they never seen the individual in person.

Not only is it unethical for any professional to give a diagnosis of your partner over the phone, it could also cause very serious consequences for the one giving this false information to you. Don't be fooled!

Please.....use common sense when looking for answers to your relationship concerns.

Seek after the truth, try to understand what went wrong. You will be much happier in the long run, and maybe even find healing for your  troubled relationship.

Blessing

Diane - National Consultant ext.0127

 

Sometimes, we have a question roaming around in our head ,and no one who we can turn to for help.

For the rest of this week, I am offering free advice by email. I will do my best to help with any question you may have.  If it seems too complicated to address by email, I will send you free minutes to call me.

This is my gift to you.

Many Blessings

Diane

In my past many years of coaching, I have been asked many times "Why is my business failing"? After reviewing business plans, financial documents, goals and objectives and other areas that may be of concern, I often find no major problem with the companies overall plans.

What I do often find is a lack of listening skills, communication, motorvation of in house employee's and most of all a lack of trained management. Although, management may come highly trained in certain job skills, they do not have the people skills needed to manage other employees. This lack of skill can and will cause damage in any company both big or small. The end result.....lack of profit and revenue.

Employees are an assit to any company. They are the people who will cause your company to grow. They are also the people who if not properly managed, will soon burn out emotionally. 

If your employees are unhappy, if you are receiving complaints, pay close attention to your management. Be sure they have the "people skills" needed for the role they have been given by your company.

If you are an employee and having trouble with your managers, please leave a commnet here and share your story.

You can also request free minutes from me if you need my help.

Blessings

Diane

Hello Everyone,

I just wanted to bring you up to date on the many Blogs I have written concerning Relationships.

Please look at my blogs and see the help you can recive just by reading them.

He Loves Me but......He's married.

How to deal with a broken heart.

The power of a women.

And several more, that can bring some insight to issues you may be dealing with.

If you would like to speak with me live, just send an email for free minutes.

Blessings

Diane

 

We can all relate to the pain of a broken heart , we have all been hurt at one time or another. But how we deal with this pain varies from person to person, the method to heal is not the same for everyone.  Some people can move forward quickly, others need more time to heal.

No relationship is the same, and therefore must be treated based on the individuals situation,thoughts and feelings.

If you are seeking help with your broken heart, be sure to seek someone who can view you as an individual and not give you "cookie cutter" advice.  There is no quick fix to a broken heart. Healing takes work and time.

Seek the help you need to find what will work for you.

Blessings

Diane-National Advisor

1-888-Ingenio Ext. 0127

Have you ever stopped and wondered if God is hearing your prayers? Ever yell up to heaven "Hey God, Can you hear me"? Ever feel like He has forgotton you, or that he just don't care?

I believe we all felt this way at some point in time and even wondered if God is real.  We become doubtful, discouraged and begin to lose whatever little faith we have.

Well, I can tell you for certain.....yes, he hears every prayer and no, he has not forgot you. Sometimes he gives us the answer but we choose not to listen. He may not always give us what we want. We must remember Gods ways are not our ways. But he will answer.

I often hear from my callers how they feel God has not been helping them, especially with relationship issues. But after a short conversation we learn God has been answering prayer all along, they just was not listening.

Try not to get discouraged, keep praying and talking with him. Remember.....HE IS LISTENING...your not alone.

From the beginning of time, women was given much power to influence a man be it for good or evil.

When Adam and Eve lived in the garden of Eden, Adam was warned by God to stay away from the forbidden fruit of the one tree in the garden. Adam had no problem obeying Gods command, he had every other tree in the garden and was never tempted to eat of the forbidden fruit. It was Eve who was fooled by the serpent, she then tempted Adam and caused Adam to fail God when he also took of the fruit and ate. Can you see Eves power here? Can you see how she was able to influence Adam?

We continue to see this power throughout the Bible. We can look at the story of Samson and Delilah, here again this women had great influence over a very powerful man. By her lust and influence she caused Samson to give away his secret of his power (his hair).

So many Christian women today get upset when they hear how they are to be submissive to a man. Although, many forget the God given power that was given to women on such a day.

We hear the old saying "Behind every good man is a good women", this is so true even in our times. As a women, you can have everything you want if you use your power correctly. It can be used for good.....or for evil. The choice is yours. But I must forwarn you,using this power for evil will bring a consequence. Understanding your power goes much deeper then I can write about here. If you understand men, you can use your gift to make him a great man and great partner.

Lets never forget who it was that the serpent fooled. Women can be easily fooled also by men, and serpents. You must understand who you are and how to build a man up, not take him down. He will love you forever, when you use your power in a positive way to help build him. Keep a good man happy and you will live "happy ever after".

 

Back in 2007, I wrote a blog here about dating those who are married. It seems today, more and more people are dating both men and women who are married.

I do not want to repeat the same comments from my blog in 2007, but if this applies to you or someone you may know, please read my former blog by clicking on July 2007 from my blog list to the left of this page.

You may find the help you need or you can email me for 5 free minutes if you would like to talk live. I understand and I do not judge, but I am here to help if you need someone to talk with about any relationship issue you may have.

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