Loneliness. Everyone experiences this gut wrenching feeling at some point. Often it is when they are with the person they love . Other times, you can be in the most crowded of rooms and feel like the only person in the world. There is a huge difference in being alone and having the overpowering feeling of loneliness. Loneliness can be very complex.It is a mental and emotional phenomenon that has at its base a powerful emotion that has survival value for children. All of us have experienced some degree of abandonment, if only for a short time, and remember the painful and traumatizing feeling that goes along with it. Loneliness feels awful. At times it just flat out hurts. When it does, just remember, it is perfectly fine to cry. Let those bottled up emotions flow and cleanse your very being.
For many people, finding an activity to keep them busy is a huge relief. Volunteering, reading, finding local groups with the same interests you have. Another great idea, adopt a pet! If you have the time to devote to a wiggly critter who is always happy to see you , do it! I think my pets have saved me at some of my loneliest and most terrifying times. Yes, even I have experienced loneliness on the deepest level at many times in my life. I understand the pain and depression that can stem from it. Just because you feel lonely does NOT mean that you are unloved, unwanted or that people don’t like you. Learning steps in self care is so very important.
If you are feeling like this, please, feel free to reach out to me. I am always interested in listening to what you have to say and getting to know you . If I am not available , you may request to make an appointment for a phone session. My email is [email protected]