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Marriage Advice
5 Tips for a passionate marriage

Everyone can recall the very moment they fell in love for the first time-- that magnetic draw and charged energy isn’t foreign to anyone with a pulse. Why, then, do those rousing feelings sometimes subside over time?

Intimacy is automatically simple when you’re in the throes of a new relationship. When we date, there’s little to focus on but feeding elementary desires; you go out to nice dinners, enjoy delicious cocktails during a show, and are light-hearted and free.

That stage has passed. The ring is on the finger and the commitment to one another is official and long-term. If the passion was there in the beginning, why isn’t it here now?

Most marriages experience a strain in passion and intimacy. With so many other responsibilities and stresses of life, like raising a family and maintaining a full work-schedule, keeping the love as fresh as day-1 becomes secondary. While it could sound impossible, time needs to be made for couples to focus on their intimacy.

If passion fades in a relationship, it becomes a large void that can swallow a marriage whole. Passion needs to be shared not just between two people, but shared between dreams, desires, and goals as well. While there is no end-all answer and shiny key to making a marriage work, there are simple things you can focus on every day to make your spouse feel loved, respected, desired, and appreciated.

5. Make time

Seriously, do it. Life is hectic and it’s not going to slow down. If you don’t stop and create time to focus on nurturing your relationship as a couple, you’re going to end up suffering in the end. Get a babysitter, go out and enjoy being free, being silly, laughing, and smiling. Allow yourself to enjoy your partner alone and remember why they became your partner in the first place. All it takes is a little effort and practice. Remind yourself that it’s your duty as a loving, invested partner to show admiration, respect, and desire them. You’ll find with a bit of effort, the passion suddenly appears to give you butterflies all over again.

4. R-E-S-P-E-C-T

You may be married, but you’re still an individual on your own. As an individual, you have goals and dreams, not just as a unit. Your spouse is the same. If you truly love your partner, recognizing this by providing support and praise as they reach for them goes a long way. Respecting your spouse is essential in a passionate marriage, and reminds you both why you’re by their side all the way to the end.

3. Open your ears, close your mouth

Listening is more than just hearing the words someone shares. When your partner speaks to you, shares any kind of information about how they’re feeling or what they’re thinking, take a moment to really listen. Seriously, really listen. Try to empathize and process what they’re telling you from their perspective. This will greatly improve communication with your partner as well as relationships in all parts of your life (friends, co-workers and family) if you really exhibit these traits.

2. Take notice and appreciate

The most successful marriages have partners who focus positive traits in one another and show admiration. Yes, your partner can drive you crazy and frustrate each other, but don’t forget to remember their positive characteristics. Show your partner respect and appreciate them for what they do, even if it may seem small. Also, remember to take notice and make them feel desired. It can be as simple as telling your partner they look great in the morning before leaving, or how you wish you could spend the whole day playing hooky with them.

1. Flirt

And don’t forget to flirt! You can—and should! —always flirt with your partner. A smile or even a gentle touch makes all the difference in the world. Show your partner you don’t just respect them, but you’re attracted to them as well!

Marriage Advice
6 Essentials you need to know about love

Both universal and essential, love is as ancient as humankind itself - which makes it a strange and humorous paradox that is still largely such a mystery. It could be argued love is one of the most common and simultaneously misunderstood phenomena of human experience. Still, as mysterious as it is, there are eight basic truths about love that everyone should know to greatly increase your chances of inviting true love into your life.

1. There is someone out there for you.

That is a simple fact - a mathematical truth, even - which should come as a relief for those of us who are currently single and lonely. There is someone out there, waiting to find you, who will love you - who will appreciate your sense of humor, who will think your smile is the best thing since sliced bread, who will want you to be the first person they speak to in the morning and the last one they think of at night. If you're open to finding love, you stand a great chance of finding it with this person.

2. You have more than one potential "soul mate".

Now, this is not intended to crush anyone's romantic sensibilities. If you're lucky enough to find "The One," to fall in love and build a life together, that bond should be revered and protected. And there isn't just "One" out there for you. The term "soul mate" is a bit of a misnomer, since it implies that for every human soul, there is only one, single other soul in all the world that can be its true match in love. However, there are plenty of people in the world whom you could potentially meet, fall for, and consider your soul mate. That's why people are regularly able to find great love again after having already experienced it once.

3. Everyone shows love in different ways.

Since love is about caring for someone, it's no wonder that each of us has our own concept of what that means. For some, showing love might mean expressing worry and concern, like a mother reminding her child to fasten their seatbelt. For others, showing love might mean giving lots of kisses and embraces. For still others, it might mean being an excellent listener, doling out well-intentioned advice, or cooking healthful, nourishing meals. It all depends on what we grew up with in our families of origin, and what we have experienced since then - the blend of past and recent influences that blend together into our concept of what it is to love someone.

4. True love means being willing to say you're sorry.

The old, well-known saying, of course, asserts the opposite - true love means never having to apologize. In truth, loving someone includes the ability to be truthful and vulnerable, along with caring about the other person's feelings. And when you're the one responsible for hurting those feelings, you should find it within yourself to admit your responsibility for what happened, and apologize. Once your ego steps aside, saying "I'm sorry" can be such a simple act - and it can be so meaningful for the other person, who loves you and wants to be loved in return.

5. Love is addictive.

Speaking of brain chemistry in relation to love, all those song lyrics claiming love is a drug may be onto something. The pleasurable sensation of love creates its own chemical changes in the brain - namely, an increase in your brain's production of dopamine, a "feel-good" chemical that also plays a key role in substance abuse and addiction. (Incidentally, eating chocolate has the same effect.) But is that all love is - looking for another high? Absolutely. Not. While the various addictive substances are not essential to sustaining life - entire lifetimes can be lived, happily and fully, without ever sampling these intoxicants - love is essential to a life well lived.

6. Love is limitless.

The more love you give, the more you receive. This may seem like a tired old platitude; it's certainly been repeated a thousand different ways in countless greeting cards and sappy poems. And that doesn't make it any less true. When you love others courageously and wholeheartedly, you open yourself up to being loved in the same way. The main block to being loved, after all, is our own fear - of betrayal, of being let down and left behind. Once you let these fears go, you open the path to loving others completely and joyously.

Marriage Advice
5 Traits of happy couples

Do you find yourself looking at happy couples and asking, “What do they have that we don’t?” Here’s the answer to your question.

1. Patience

Frustration in all relationships happens, and focusing on those frustrations gets you nowhere. Expressing frustrations to resolve them is healthy, and patient couples can do this from a non-irritable, non-hostile place. Those who put their partners on the defensive, which leads to wallowing in frustration, leading to endless dissatisfaction. Staying calm, centered and acting rationale, all areas of your life will improve—especially personal relationships.

2. Loyalty

Loyalty does not only mean physical fidelity, it also includes emotional devotion. People who are loyal in every aspect of their relationship enjoy truly intimate, loving relationships. Loyalty manifests in many ways, like keeping confidences without fail, not speaking disparagingly about your partner to others, keeping your word to one another, being respectful of your partner privately and publicly, and reassuring your partner that you’re there emotionally and physically.

3. Generous

People who are giving in their relationships show their partners regularly that they love and care for them. Being giving doesn’t mean you need to buy presents, flowers, or jewelry - it means you give them the bigger slice of cake, make them a cup of coffee in the morning, or give them a foot rub when they’re stressed (or just because!). Regular generosity demonstrates to your partner that they’re loved in a slightly muted fashion.

4. EQ

The higher the emotional intelligence in a partnership, the better the relationship. Couples with high EQs can identify, use, understand, and manage emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges, and defuse conflict. High emotional intelligence allows you to recognize your own emotional state and the emotional state of your partner, and engage with them in a way that draws them to you.

5. Authentic

Not only are people in successful relationships honest with one another, they are also authentic versions of themselves always. Oftentimes people will start a relationship based on a façade, a shiny-happy-perfect version of who they are (exhausting and unhealthy!). Being yourself from the beginning lets your partner know what they’re getting into, and allows them to love you for all that you are. When partners are honest and genuine, they’re able to tap into their partner's authenticity with heartfelt communication.

Breakup Advice
3 Ways to successfully move on after a breakup

There's no way of getting around it: Breakups are agonizing. At least at some point in your life, you've probably experienced the disappointingly bitter end to a relationship you had high hopes for. Every waking moment feels like a recurring nightmare and bedtime just happens to be when your brain presses 'play' on the tragically painful reel of happy times gone-by. You feel hopeless.

Relief can seem hard to come by. Almost impossible. Whether your relationship has reached its final resting place or you're taking a break in hopes of rekindling the spark down the line, here are 3 steps you can take to reclaim your confidence, develop your emotional awareness, and get you back on your feet (in some killer stilettos).

Step 1: SET BOUNDARIES

Too often do people succumb to their feelings of hopelessness after a breakup. This results in foolishly texting, calling, or desperately attempting to remain in contact. While it may sound harsh, you need to set specific, firm boundaries with your ex. No texting, no calling, no Facebooking.

Firm boundaries provide you valuable time to emotionally discover, discern, and recover. These moments are incredibly valuable in learning about yourself and maturing emotionally. Not only do they allow you to reflect, but they provide incredible clarity when you allow yourself to embrace being alone. Become fully present with yourself. What happened to my relationship? Why did we end the way we did? Is this what I really want and need? You can never grow if you can't answer these questions honestly, and you can't answer them honestly without space from your ex.

Step 2: REACH FOR POSITIVE CHANGE

It's easy for self-loathing or self-punishment (or a combination of the two) to occupy your mind when you're experiencing a breakup. It is so critical to stop yourself, breathe, and use this opportunity to make positive change in your life. The possibilities are truly endless. Look around for classes that interest you, pick up a hobby, and focus on your health and wellness by starting an exercise program.

While it may seem the world is ending, remember you're still alive, and you can't let yourself or your spirit wither away. Redirect the energy that was going into your relationship towards yourself! Soon, you'll feel more confident, free, and happy.

Step 3: REFLECT

This is a tough one to teach after a breakup, but it's crucial. When there's anger or frustration after a breakup, you may find yourself blaming the other person for the demise of a relationship. This is unfair and dishonest. Relationships are 50/50, and just as much as they may have been a contributing factor, so were you. You may be thinking, “What I contributed to the breakup?” Sure, maybe you were entirely giving, present, and understanding, but remember: you picked your ex. Did you miss some red flags? Were there certain behaviors present at the beginning that you thought you might be able to change? Did you allow someone to take advantage of your giving nature?

Whether you didn't recognize it at first or you're just learning now, these are all things you need to reflect upon to gain insight into who you are and what your needs are in a relationship. To be emotionally intelligent is to be proactive and work on what you can do differently from this moment onward: empower yourself to build a stronger relationship the next time around.

Breakup Advice
5 mistakes keeping you from your dream

The idea that hard work is a provision of a healthy relationship is an outdated notion. The phrase is an accomplice when it comes to ignoring the core qualities of a strong relationship. Yes, there is hard work that must be done-- and it starts before two people have even gotten together, and it starts with just one person: you. One's greatest responsibility is ensuring one enters a relationship with a clear understanding of who they are, what they need, and a reasonable, open-minded respect for their partner.

1. Not knowing yourself

You can't love someone else if you don't love yourself first. But what if you don't know who you is? Deconditioning our compulsion for instant success, cultivating the building blocks of self-esteem, and learning what it really means to be present with ourselves may run boldly against the grain of our culturally-entrenched convention, but reaching that place is critical to being able to be in a healthy, committed, relationship built on appreciation and respect.

2. Not recognizing other's needs

In all relationships, one of the most valuable qualities to possess is the ability to not just recognize someone else's needs and desires, but appreciate what those may be. Finding a partner that fits you lies in this critical notion: being able to perceive, appreciate, and respect someone for not just who they are, and provide them an avenue to fulfill those desires together—even if they may differ from your own. In a healthy relationship, you'd find both parties doing this equally for one another.

3. Don't rely on your partner to make you happy

The goal is to walk down life's grand boulevard side by side holding hands, not on top of each other as one unit. Giving your partner space to be themselves is a monumentally overlooked lesson. Don't define yourself based on what you expect out of them. Find comfort and peace independent of anyone else's presence. This is the greatest gift you can bring to someone in a relationship. You want to be with them because they make you happy—not because you need them for yourself to be happy.

4. Harboring insecurities

The importance of outlook on life and the internal acceptance of self and security are critical. Closely tied to this idea, and equally troubling, is harboring insecurities. Insecurity comes in plenty of forms and will ultimately undermine a relationship. If you're constantly questioning a partner's faithfulness or asking yourself if you're good enough, your thoughts will manifest in the form of irrational, jealous, or needy behavior. Instead, accentuate positives in your relationship. Identify what may be holding you back and take steps to overcome them.

5. Unreasonable expectations

When was the last time you talked to a girlfriend who listed out the qualities her future husband must have? Or a guy who assumes there are no good women out there? Even before crossing paths, we've eliminated a huge possibility of making a positive connection with someone special. We are constantly flooded with backwards concepts of love and romance from the media that create a false image of what an ideal partner is. There's only one thing which ultimately matters: character. If your list includes lots of adjectives about "wealth", "physical traits," and someone's "looks," then you've got a lot of work to do.

Breakup Advice
How to date successfully…online!

Dating has evolved along with the evolution of tech. Dating sites aren't a new thing, and yet they've finally become mainstream as you can have dating profiles on tons of websites and apps, often for free. While this is awesome for giving you the freedom and flexibility to search for love, it takes a lot of dedication and is often met with lots of frustrations along the way. Done properly, however, the online dating experience can be extremely positive and more importantly-- super fun!

1. Be Smart

Like anything you do in cyberspace, use your discretion when it comes to sharing personal information and be smart about what you share. Taking safety precautions is always crucial when dating and meeting someone for the first time. Don't give out your phone number until you get to know someone, always choose a public place for your first date and let a friend know where you'll be. Use common sense when dating online, just like you would in real life!

2. Self-Evaluate

If you're looking to find a great relationship, you need to not only be honest with others, but be honest with yourself. Think about what kind of person you're looking for and don't settle. You can connect with great people if you're true to yourself and your needs, and open and honest about what they are.

3. Market Yourself

Profiles with photos get 10-times as many hits as those without. Upload recent photographs of yourself not the snapshot(s) from your cousin's wedding five years ago that miraculously made you look 3 inches taller and 10 pounds thinner. Use pictures of you and not lots of group shots where it's hard to figure which one is you. Don't try to hide who you are or what you look like. Deception is a terrible foundation upon which to build a relationship and won't give you the results you seek once meeting people.

4. Be Direct

You have a right to date someone you're interested in. Don't let them slip by without taking a chance. It's okay to be direct and make the first move! Just remember to always be courteous and kind. Being behind a computer screen doesn't give anyone a reason to not be polite.

5. Be Patient

Dating is a process that deserves patience and doing it online is no different. Without it, you'll find yourself bummed out and frustrated often. The more patient you are, the more fun you'll have. An no likes impatient of pushy people who come off as desperate —a dating no-no! So, recognize dating and having great experiences requires persistence and a positive attitude, and you'll have positive and entertaining memories.

Relationship Advice
9 Traits of people great at relationships

Do you find yourself looking at happy couples and asking, "What do they have that I don't have?" Here's the answer to your question.

1. They are responsible for their own happiness

The healthiest relationships boast partners who understand they're ultimately responsible for their own happiness. Relying on another person to make you happy is irresponsible and destructive. You enter a relationship to benefit one another mutually, not gain something personally.

2. They have empathy

Not to be mistaken with kindness or pity, empathy means you can step into someone else's shoes with the aim of understanding their feelings and perspectives, and using those insights to guide your actions. Couples who demonstrate empathy regularly consider the other person's feelings, wishes, and needs. Empathy is a habit we can cultivate to improve the quality of our own lives and relationships.

3. They have patience

Frustration in all relationships happens, and focusing on those frustrations gets you nowhere. Expressing frustrations to resolve them is healthy, and patient couples can do this from a non-irritable, non-hostile place. Those who put their partners on the defensive, which leads to wallowing in frustration, leading to endless dissatisfaction. Staying calm, centered and acting rationale, all areas of your life will improve—especially personal relationships.

4. They are attentive

It's hard sometimes to snap out of feeling like the universe revolves around us. However, people in successful, healthy relationships do this alarmingly well. You're not the only one with needs in the relationship, and recognizing that and being able to act on demonstrates a strong ability to nurture someone other than yourself.

5. They are loyal

Loyalty does not only mean physical fidelity, it also includes emotional devotion. People who are loyal in every aspect of their relationship enjoy truly intimate, loving relationships. Loyalty manifests in many ways, like keeping confidences without fail, not speaking disparagingly about your partner to others, keeping your word to one another, being respectful of your partner privately and publicly, and reassuring your partner that you're there emotionally and physically.

6. They are generous

People who are giving in their relationships show their partners regularly that they love and care for them. Being giving doesn't mean you need to buy presents, flowers, or jewelry - it means you give them the bigger slice of cake, make them a cup of coffee in the morning, or give them a foot rub when they're stressed (or just because!). Regular generosity demonstrates to your partner that they're loved in a slightly muted fashion.

7. They have high emotional intelligence

The higher the emotional intelligence in a partnership, the better the relationship. Couples with high EQs can identify, use, understand, and manage emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges, and defuse conflict. High emotional intelligence allows you to recognize your own emotional state and the emotional state of your partner, and engage with them in a way that draws them to you.

8. They have strong communication skills

It's natural (and healthy) to have disagreements or a fight in a relationship. What happens after those disagreements or fights is what matters most. The best relationships have people who effectively "talk it out." Talking it out means you say what you really feel and listen closely. Then, they keep going. And they keep listening. They keep talking until whatever it is that made them angry or sad is past, and they move on without harboring hurt or resentment aimed at their partner.

9. They are honest and genuine

Not only are people in successful relationships honest with one another, they are also authentic versions of themselves always. Oftentimes people will start a relationship based on a façade, a shiny-happy-perfect version of who they are (exhausting and unhealthy!). Being yourself from the beginning lets your partner know what they're getting into, and allows them to love you for all that you are. When partners are honest and genuine, they are able to tap into their partner's authenticity with heartfelt communication.

Relationship Advice
8 Things everyone should know about love

Both universal and essential, love is as ancient as humankind itself - which makes it a strange and humorous paradox that is still largely such a mystery. It could be argued love is one of the most common and simultaneously misunderstood phenomena of human experience. Still, as mysterious as it is, there are eight basic truths about love that everyone should know to greatly increase your chances of inviting true love into your life.

1. There is someone out there for you. That is a simple fact - a mathematical truth, even - which should come as a relief for those of us who are currently single and lonely. There is someone out there, waiting to find you, who will love you - who will appreciate your sense of humor, who will think your smile is the best thing since sliced bread, who will want you to be the first person they speak to in the morning and the last one they think of at night. If you're open to finding love, you stand a great chance of finding it with this person.

2. You have more than one potential "soul mate". Now, this is not intended to crush anyone's romantic sensibilities. If you're lucky enough to find "The One," to fall in love and build a life together, that bond should be revered and protected. And there isn't just "One" out there for you. The term "soul mate" is a bit of a misnomer, since it implies that for every human soul, there is only one, single other soul in all the world that can be its true match in love. However, there are plenty of people in the world whom you could potentially meet, fall for, and consider your soul mate. That's why people are regularly able to find great love again after having already experienced it once.

3. Love and lust are two completely different things. And it's all too easy to confuse them as sexual attraction can exist without romantic love, and romantic love can certainly bloom without sex. Love is an emotion first, after all, which is then turned into an action, it's about caring for someone. Commitment and trust are essential to love, while physical intimacy is not. So next time you feel a strong physical attraction toward someone, mark it as an exciting and important connection - but don't confuse it with real love. Lust can be immediate, while love often takes longer to grow and mature. See how different these two really are?

4. Everyone shows love in different ways. Since love is about caring for someone, it's no wonder that each of us has our own concept of what that means. For some, showing love might mean expressing worry and concern, like a mother reminding her child to fasten their seatbelt. For others, showing love might mean giving lots of kisses and embraces. For still others, it might mean being an excellent listener, doling out well-intentioned advice, or cooking healthful, nourishing meals. It all depends on what we grew up with in our families of origin, and what we have experienced since then - the blend of past and recent influences that blend together into our concept of what it is to love someone.

5. True love means being willing to say you're sorry. The old, well-known saying, of course, asserts the opposite - true love means never having to apologize. In truth, loving someone includes the ability to be truthful and vulnerable, along with caring about the other person's feelings. And when you're the one responsible for hurting those feelings, you should find it within yourself to admit your responsibility for what happened, and apologize. Once your ego steps aside, saying "I'm sorry" can be such a simple act - and it can be so meaningful for the other person, who loves you and wants to be loved in return.

6. When looking for a long-term partner, open your eyes and follow your nose. This gets down to the basic physiology of love. If your lover smells delicious to you, it's possible that it's just their cologne - what's really happening is you're responding positively to their pheromones. Pheromones are natural chemical substances produced and released by animals into their environments which humans do too. As far as eyes go, it turns out there's a scientific reason that gazing into your lover's eyes feels so wonderfully connective. Neural synchrony - the scientific term for the brain's complex process of turning raw sensory input, or simple information taken in through the five senses, into actual perception, which is closely related to emotion - it's love in action.

7. Love is addictive. Speaking of brain chemistry in relation to love, all those song lyrics claiming love is a drug may be onto something. The pleasurable sensation of love creates its own chemical changes in the brain - namely, an increase in your brain's production of dopamine, a "feel-good" chemical that also plays a key role in substance abuse and addiction. (Incidentally, eating chocolate has the same effect.) But is that all love is - looking for another high? Absolutely not. While the various addictive substances are not essential to sustaining life - entire lifetimes can be lived, happily and fully, without ever sampling these intoxicants - love is essential to a life well lived.

8. Love is limitless. The more love you give, the more you receive. This may seem like a tired old platitude; it's certainly been repeated a thousand different ways in countless greeting cards and sappy poems. And that doesn't make it any less true. When you love others courageously and wholeheartedly, you open yourself up to being loved in the same way. The main block to being loved, after all, is our own fear - of betrayal, of being let down and left behind. Once you let these fears go, you open the path to loving others completely and joyously.

Relationship Advice
Headed for the love of your life, or heartbreak?

I cannot tell you how many times I have conversations with people who have had their hearts broken repeatedly. They tell me they have no "luck" with relationships. As if luck were responsible for the choices, they have made in choosing someone with whom they want to spend the rest of their life? Here is the secret to finding a lasting relationship!

1. Know yourself. What are your values? Make a list of the things you require in a relationship. What values do you want this person to have, what behaviors, what type of a lifestyle? Sort these into must haves (relationship deal breakers), those you prefer (relationship negotiators) and nice to haves (relationship icing).

2. Take a long hard look at these lists. Now think back and ask yourself where your previous relationships were on these lists. What did you learn from these relationships?

3. Now, picture yourself interviewing your exes for the position of becoming your life partner. How do they rate on your list? Choosing a mate is no different than hiring someone to run a business for you. Every time you choose to go out on a date you are choosing to be with someone you think has potential for the future. So, interview and ask questions. Listen and ask follow-up questions. You deserve to be happy. You deserve the best.

Some things to consider:

1. Happy people do not criticize the way you look, what you eat, how you drive, need to bash the ex, etc. They support instead, offering considerations, and often are perfectly happy regardless of whether you act on their suggestions. If you’re into people pleasing and changing everything about yourself for your significant other, you need to start working on putting yourself first before seeking out a partner.

2. Listen, to what people say. If they tell you, they do not want to commit, do not just take a hint, run, if you’re seeking commitment! If you’re not listening, you’re not being smart with your heart.

3. Watch and pay attention to the details from the other person. People who are not honest do give off major signals. If you see behavior that is different from the talk, believe what people do over what they say! Our actions always tell the truth over our words.

4. Learn about yourself, what you like and what you do not like. Learn from your heart and your body. Your feelings and body will tell you when you like someone and trust how you feel when you’re with someone. If the relationship is a roller coaster of emotions (highs and lows), it’s probably not the right relationship for you.

5. Live in the moment. This is the greatest relationship maker there is on the planet. Living in the moment allows you to feel what you need to feel, hear what you need to hear, know what you need to know.

6. Trust when you are being real, listening, paying attention to the signs and enjoying your time with someone else, that life wants you to be blessed and happy.

7. Be the person you most want to attract. Focus on your strengths and where you could be a better version of you. Be honest and positive about yourself and you will attract the right partner for you.

8. Finally, visualize what your life will be like in a loving relationship. Close your eyes and visualize. Understanding what you seek in a healthy relationship will put you that much closer to finding love.

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